But does Benny B, personally, just let it slide? Is he as guilty as the rest of us? I don't understand the psychology of the extreme white-knight type of male feminist who constantly bangs on about how terrible men are. Do they include themselves in the great suppurating morass of Bad Men? Because it has very weird implications either way.
Or is it like, I'm bad too, but I at least know I'm bad, which makes me less bad than the rest?
I don't think men are terrible by nature or anything, but like baboon was saying, we are all 'guilty' of enjoying male privilege and that goes hand in hand with the deeply embedded sexism in masculine culture - its delusional for anyone to think they are somehow outside of this socialisation.
When you say 'speak for yourself mate' - can you honestly say you have never in your life done or said anything sexist, or ignored a mate's sexist comments, gone along with or joined in 'harmless' sexist bantz just because its easier than challenging it? Or watched any porn where degrading language is used towards women. Ever?
I admit to having done all of these things in the past. The best I can say is that nowadays I'm much more aware of these things than before and make as much effort as possible to never do them again (though I admit still ignore it when friends/workmates occasionally make sexist comments), and fully deserve to get pulled up on them if and when I do.
Feminism will always be (or should always be) uncomfortable for all men, allies or not, because it requires implicating ourselves and giving up our privileges. I think that should be the first thing to realise and accept if you want to be any kind of feminist ally. Liberal men who claim to be feminist allies (or even outright feminists!) and make noises about how shocking and terrible trumps comments are, and how misogynistic the alt-right is, then go defend degrading porn because of 'free choice' and (and often watch it themselves) are not being feminist allies, they're part of the problem. And it's there in both the left and the right.