prostitution

john eden

male pale and stale
Initial thoughts on this, largely for my own benefit I guess. Sorry for length and for repeating what other people have said.

I should point out, as I did on the EU thread, that I am not certain about this and am contributing in the spirit of discussion and clarification.

That said, I think it is unlikely that consensus will be reached. Perhaps that's OK as it is basically privileged white men discussing this issue on the internet. One of the reasons it is hard to reach any kind of agreement is that the data is so hard to come by. This is partly because of the legal situation and partly because of the ethical situation (sex workers being widely regarded as dubious people).

Having said that I haven't read all of the links which have been posted here, because of a lack of time, sorry. Anyway I am trying to go back to my first principles here, so people can "see my working" as Droid has said - rather than pass myself off as an expert or someone who has special knowledge.


Women / Work / Wages

1. Sex work as it currently exists is a product of a patriarchal society and capitalism. My aim is to eradicate both and replace them with something better/fairer.

2. Sex work is a spectrum which includes exchanging penetrative sex for money at one end. But it also includes a bunch of other, less invasive activities. Including stuff which is not necessarily directly sexual (adult babies, bondage etc) for the sex worker or which doesn't involve direct physical contact with another person (cam work, some porn etc).

3. Women are expected to participate in "emotional labour" far more than men are generally.

4. Women's work is generally less well paid than men's work.

5. Women's work generally includes vast amounts of unpaid labour without which society would not be able to function (housework, childrearing etc).

6. Women are more likely than men to be single parents (and so more likely to need to support a family out of a single income).

7. Women have been more adversely affected by the current round of cuts/austerity than men.

I do not find it inconceivable that some women may prefer to engage in some types of sex work rather than get minimum wage (or no wages) for intimate care work, for example wiping the arses of old people. Or other mind numbing activity that takes up more of their time than sex work might/could.

This is obviously not a choice I think is fair - hence my calls up thread for a universal basic income as a transitional demand before we get communism and unicorns.

But I know a woman who has made that choice and seemed relatively happy with it. It is not for me to decree that she needed rescuing.

Morality / Your Daughter

1. Women are judged more harshly than men for sexual transgressions. (I am excluding sexual assault here as I consider that to be more about violence and power than sex). Shane MacGowan apparently worked as a rent boy and this is passed off as an unfortunate phase in his life. Women in the public eye who have worked as sex workers seem completely defined by that forevermore.

2. I have not paid for sex / sex work and think it is unlikely that I would do so in future. It does not fit with my ethical code or how I see myself. Possibly I would reconsider this if my life situation changed harshly - most of the situations I am envisioning involve horrible things happening to me or my partner so I prefer not to vocalise them but I suppose I could if that would be helpful.

3. I've been in a monogamous relationship for 19 years now. And actually have been in monogamous relationships for virtually of my sexually active life. I've never had an affair, even. Woo.

4. There is a vast field of things I do not want my daughter to do. These include taking drugs, being religious, holding fascist beliefs and enjoying the music of Phil Collins. In terms of work I would not want her to join the armed forces, the police force, a firm of bailiffs, anything to do with banking, the Sun newspaper etc. I would also not want her to be a sex worker.

5. It is clear that a significant percentage of the population think about sex and relationships entirely differently from me. Some people of all genders / sexualities just like to fuck around generally and seem happy enough with that. (WRT to Droid's insightful point about sex being a special thing to some people - the sacred peak of a relationship).

6. It is abundantly clear that a large proportion of men have no problem paying for sexual services, even if they are illegal. My guess it that whilst we have capitalism that will always be the case. The logic of capitalism is that there will therefore always be sex workers.

So...

I can't stop my daughter from taking drugs, so I would like to ensure that the drugs she takes and the environment she takes them in are safe - and as free from dangerous people and criminals as possible. Hence why I think regulation of drugs is worth exploring.

I can't stop her going into the Army either - which is why I support efforts to ensure that soldiers have the right training/equipment and also more crucially that sexism/bullying in the forces is challenged.

Ultimately I can't stop her becoming a sex worker either, which is why I think it is important that harm reduction strategies are introduced.

As flagged up in the video I posted on the first page, some sex workers are saying that they would like to be able to go to the police with more confidence when crimes are committed against them in the course of their work. The sex workers in the video are suggesting that decriminalisation is better for them than regulation/legalisation. They are not suggestion neo-abolitionism as a solution.

Are they typical sex workers? Do they represent typical sex workers? Nobody actually knows, do they?

The law

1. Extortion, kidnap, assault, rape etc are already illegal as has been pointed out. How good the police are at ensuring convictions for these crimes varies greatly - and is dependent on their resources as well as their institutional racism, sexism and the prevailing political climate.

2. Investigations by the police are clearly affected by the race, gender, status etc of the participants. I do not see this changing any time soon. Any recourse to legislation must come with an acknowledgement that this will mean more policing - with all the disastrous effects that inevitably brings: “I have never seen a situation so dismal that a policeman couldn’t make it worse.”

3. Over the last century huge steps have been taken in workplace safety thanks to trade unions, campaigning, legislation etc. People should not expect to be routinely beaten or raped or robbed as part of their work, in the same way that they should not be exposed to asbestos or cigarette smoke. Generally the campaigns that have worked best have had a groundswell of support from the workers themselves. It is hard to get my head around the various sex worker lobby groups but my impression is that harm reduction and safety is something that everyone on this thread can agree on?

4. Safety of the consumers should also be considered. I'm not sure how you can do that without legislation though. Possibly by some ebay-like feedback scheme. It is a lesser issue for me. (I think Ben said that criminalising punters would put people off registering but I'm assuming Bitcoin / silk road etc models might be able to generate a profile which is not traceable - lots of people have online profiles which are distinct from the real life ones - that can be assessed by people for credibility - it's easy to see who is a bot or a nonentity "ranting egg" on twitter, right? But more on tech at the end...

Neo-abolitionism
Now I know what this is, my initial reaction is that making clients who pay for sexual services into criminals will not necessarily help with harm reduction. I'd like to be clearer about what sexual services this would apply to, for starters.

My immediate point would be that if someone who pays for services from a sex
worker is already criminalised that a dynamic has already been set up where the client is prepared to break the law. That may not have a healthy impact on the situation.

Similarly, as said above, if the police already view the situation in a criminal framework that may not help sex workers either. It is all too easy to see cops who are short of arrests staking out people who leave sex work establishments, whether they are guilty of the "crime" of purchasing sex or not. If you were running a business where all of your clients were criminals (by definition) and one of them assaulted you, would you be happy to go to the police and identify your premises or somehow otherwise reveal your other non-violent client base?

Tech / other stuff

More as a throwaway really, but I think we need to consider technological solutions to these issues as well as legislative ones. Peer to peer has had a significant impact on the music business and has lead to a plethora of one man bandcamps. I'm not sure if it's had the same impact yet on the porn industry but I am guessing it will. (I'm amazed that newsagents still stock porn mags - that surely will die out in my lifetime?)

Has tinder had an impact on sex work? What will happen when VR and (ugh) sex-bots are more prevalent?

What are the technologies that can be used for harm reduction in sex work?
 

droid

Well-known member
Great post John. Pertinent points about the perils of policing - I was thinking something similar myself.

Please, tell us about the horrible things that you envision happening to you.*







*Only joking
 
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john eden

male pale and stale
Rereading Selma James (about the occupation by sex workers of a church in the 70s in protest against police harassment) has lead me to the ECP site which has some bits on:

trafficking: http://prostitutescollective.net/2016/04/20/facts-on-trafficking/

Also their response to a Scottish bill on criminalising purchase of sex:
http://prostitutescollective.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Scotland-consultation-response1.pdf

(the bill was not adopted - looks like it wasn't discussed even, due to lack of support - that just for info, it may just have been appallingly drafted or something)
 

vimothy

yurp
I hope we can take it as a given that there is more of a consensus that rape/enslavement is harmful than there is that prostitution in of itself is harmful?

I agree with that, but my point is that it's not enough to put forward a utilitarian solution as though it were free from moral judgement and merely the answer to a technical question about the effect of policy.
 

droid

Well-known member
Well, the utilitarian approach itself is never free from moral judgement is it? Seeing as the calculation of harm/benefit is in itself a moral judgment, albeit (and this is the crux I suppose) one that attempts to quantify the most widely accepted definitions of both - which, in the area of social policy is the closest you can get to objectivity.
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
I'm not sure this is true. A huge amount of sex work in the UK is conducted through Internet sites now through which sex workers advertise and screen their clients - who are essentially ranked/reviewed, with any problems or difficulties flagged up. People can choose not to accept clients who don't satisfy certain feedback criteria or who don't have enough feedback.

Yes, exactly. A woman - or a man, for that matter - who is able to screen clients is not in the same position as someone who simply has to use their judgement in the case of each potential punter who turns up (or, worse still, is in such dire financial straits as to be unable to turn anyone away). A prostitute who works for herself and only for herself is not in the same position as someone who is beholden to a pimp or madam. A prostitute working in a legally registered brothel with professional security on hand is not in the same position as someone who gets into strangers' cars every night. And so on.

So there is a huge range of experiences encompassed by the term 'prostitute' or 'sex worker', from someone who chooses their own clients, sets their own rates and keeps the rewards of their labour (and who by any reasonable definition of the word is a good deal less exploited than any given shop or office worker) to those who meet the functional definition of a slave.

Two things, then:

Surely we can all agree that the existence of prostitutes at one extreme end of this spectrum can be acknowledged without implying that those at the other end don't exist or can be ignored? and,

Is it possible to create laws that, as far as possible, protect those at the latter extreme of the spectrum while allowing those at the former end to conduct their business without the state interfering with them any more than it does any self-employed person?
 
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Benny Bunter

Well-known member
Great post John with lots to ruminate on (which is precisely what I'm gonna do for a while before posting again I think). One thing I will say is that there needs to be much more research and debate about the men who buy sex and their motivations, how they view the women they buy sex from.

Thanks again for the post.
 

john eden

male pale and stale
Great post John with lots to ruminate on (which is precisely what I'm gonna do for a while before posting again I think). One thing I will say is that there needs to be much more research and debate about the men who buy sex and their motivations, how they view the women they buy sex from.

Thanks again for the post.

Thanks Benny. I agree about the research you suggest. A key question for me is how many of them would care if they knew about the autonomy or lack of, of the sex worker they are paying?
 

mistersloane

heavy heavy monster sound
https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/nij/grants/182860.pdf

This is quite an interesting study on punters and why they do it and what they want :

https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/nij/grants/182860.pdf

Especially revealing in this sentence, I thought :

3 ) Many of the popular explanations as to why men seek prostitutes are supported by the findings. Underlying many of them is the sense that men are entitled to sexuality, and if conventional relationships are not available or are not meeting their wants, prostitution is an option. This sense of entitlement to sexuality could be addressed in future prevention or education efforts.

That sentence "the sense that men are entitled to sexuality", I find really chilling.
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
Sex is a basic human need for everyone except the small minority of genuine asexuals. I think the asymmetry between men and women arises because almost all women can, if they so choose, find someone to fuck. With men that's not necessarily the case. Which is why prostitution usually - though not always, as people in this thread have pointed out - involves women selling sex to men. Whether this is just a social thing or has a biological basis, I don't know, although if it is social, it does seem to be pretty universal.

I mean, is there or has there been a society where it's more common for men to sell sex to women, or where this kind of prostitution arose first? I'd be intrigued to learn of such a thing.
 

Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
Now here's a thing. At the music night I hosted with woops on Friday there was this woman I've known for years from the old b3ta messageboards, who makes a living mainly from being a sort of webcam dominatrix. (From what I understand, this doesn't usually involve any nudity on her part but is aimed at men who get off on being told what to do. I remember a screenshot she posted once that showed three men, all fully dressed, sitting on a sofa, deadpan as you like, each with a shoe balanced on his head.) Anyway, she'd told me before that she used to see clients in the flesh for, er, in-the-flesh type actual sex, and she implied the other night that she still did. In her own words, "it's about counselling as much sex" much of the time, and "99 times out of 100 they can't even get it up".

She's FEROCIOUSLY feminist and is pretty much the least oppressed woman you could even hope to meet.
 
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Mr. Tea

Let's Talk About Ceps
Was just a suggestion. They do need counselling right?

I honestly have no idea. Presumably they choose to pay her for their time because they feel better afterwards, whether it's the result of a shag, a heartfelt chat or being told they're very naughty indeed while dressed as a schoolboy.
 

trza

Well-known member
Chi-Town's own, H.W.A. (Hoez With Attitude). Their debut single from their debut album, Livin' In A Hoe House ...
 

Benny Bunter

Well-known member
Benny - I didn't miss the Meghan Murphy article. I believe all points within the article have been covered extensively.
I also believe Meghan Murphy to be a transphobe and a racist. This is a letter signed by various sex worker action groups, transgender activist groups and Black Lives Matter reps in Canada to that effect - http://shamelessmag.com/blog/entry/an-open-letter-to-the-editors-of-rabble.ca

i think its only fair to share murphy's response to these accusations.


Recently, there was a campaign initiated, demanding that you be dismissed from your job as an editor at rabble.ca, because (according to them) you were harsh in a post you wrote related to Laverne Cox, who is transgender. You argued that these “sex-positive feminists” were allying themselves with Hugh Hefner, “promoting the pornification of women and lining his pockets”. Can you elaborate on these “sex-positive feminists” and their collusion with the sex industry?

MM: Well, to be fair, the petition to have me fired and no-platformed at rabble had little to do with my commentary surrounding Laverne Cox. Those people had been demanding I be fired and banned from writing at rabble for a long time — privately trying to bully my employers into censoring me — before they created the public petition, due to my work advocating for the Nordic model and fighting the sex industry. They saw my criticisms of the commentary surrounding Cox’s nude photoshoot in Allure as an opportunity to attempt to paint me as “transphobic,” despite the fact that my points, with regard to the claims by mainstream feminists and fashion magazines that the ability to be objectified and desired by men is somehow “radical” and “empowering,” were consistent with the analysis I have with regard to the objectification of all women.

But it wasn’t about Laverne Cox. It was about a very small group of liberals who didn’t like the impact I was having on discourse surrounding prostitution and prostitution law in Canada because, previous to that, they’d kind of had dominion over the topic (at rabble, but also in other progressive circles/media platforms throughout North America, too), and now their monopoly was being threatened.

They’d been happy to marginalize and ignore all the feminists who didn’t agree with them because those women didn’t have easy access to media platforms, but they can no longer pretend we don’t exist and we’ve gained so much ground in terms of our fight. They felt if they targeted me in this way, they could pretend that, 1) It was only white women saying that the system of prostitution is wrong (which is bullshit), and 2) That if they shut me up, the abolitionist media presence in Canada would be notably diminished, and they could go back to promoting sex industry propaganda without anyone challenging it.

They lied on their petition, calling me “racist” and “transphobic” because they knew it would be unconvincing to tell the truth, which is that they simply disagree with the feminist position/fight against the sex industry.

http://www.feministcurrent.com/2016/04/19/interview-meghan-murphy-liberal-backlash-feminism/
 

sufi

lala
OK all you opinionated people, so how do your considered positions on this topic connect to the epic twitter tale of zola?
"so we vibing over our hoeism or whatever..."
 
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