Yeah that's me... but it has rubbed off on me, to the extent that when she is away I can maintain at a level which to me is good (though which won't pass when she gets back obviously). At the moment she has gone to Russia for a couple of weeks and I AM still making the bed when I get up in the afternoon, I'm keeping the place relatively tidy and I am eating the food we froze before she left or which I cook myself at times which are roughly acceptable (though late) and recognisable as attempts at normal meal times. I just changed the water on the air conditioning unit and used it to water the plants... admittedly on her email prompt.
Thing is, it is a good way to be. I was thinking when I was reading that Mindfulness thread how much of an advantage it is to wake up to a tidy house every day, to have food in the fridge and a neat pile of bills to pay in good time and so on. Once you're on top of it it's pretty easy to stay that way, but one after party or long bender with loads of spillages can feel like it fucks it up... but it's not too bad cos the basics are all there. But I'd never have got on top of it if it wasn't for her - and other girlfriends doing the ground work too. When I was younger I lived in some crazy shitholes - there was one where the toilet was blocked for weeks and we had to use the pub down the road, one where the only light we could get in the kitchen was by opening the fridge, someone set fire to the curtains at a party, smashed in a door, sink filled with plates all stuck together for months on end, door keys lost so we had to climb in via neighbours' balconies (or in one case break the door down ourselves and then pretend we'd been burgled).... and so on and so forth. Much better now. Was at an after club party the other day and I was thinking "How can these guys put up with this?" and then I though "Wait it was a million times worse in my house for years on end" - you just grow up don't you. If you can.
