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    Default Your social self

    Do you have a natural unaffected social self or is it an elaborate facade?

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    depends with whom i am and where i am. i work in an office 8 hours a day, i don't think anyone can be their selves in such an environment, one of the reasons that makes it hell.

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    It amazes me you work in an office

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    i'm a social chameleon in all the ways that make people think i'm disingenuous and honest in all the ways that alienate and upset people.

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    I think so, although I have some mates I can be sillier with and some I can't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pattycakes View Post
    I find that often the cleverer you get, the more likely you are to become detached from your feelings, start to see life as a game to play at the expense of others, whether for entertainment, gain or status.
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    If I was cleverer would have learned to play it for gain or status.

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    I'd imagine we all have a facade, to varying degrees. seems to diminish as you get older, you either settle in with like types (and thus don't need to project) or just no longer give a shit how you're perceived. we all care how we come off, but it's possible to care very little.

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    That patty cakes quote is it really. Itís always a game for me. I donít have real friendships. Iím incredibly condescending to everyone else and this feel Iím too smart to engage with them honestly.

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    If you don't want to get treated like a freak you have to hide and if you're going to have to hide might as well make it fun

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    I can veer from being incredibly boisterous to incredibly mellow. I'm at my worst/most boisterous with my brother. One time on his birthday we ended up shooting each other in the face with a fire extinguisher, I stapled a beer can to his head and he nearly broke my leg with a golf club.

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    My teen years were spent with people from such a different class background from me that manufacturing faux-common ground was a necessity.

    Iím not very good with middle class people now though. I have these very fractious working relationship with them. One accused me of sexually assaulting a disabled person last week.

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    Quote Originally Posted by version View Post
    I can veer from being incredibly boisterous to incredibly mellow. I'm at my worst/most boisterous with my brother. One time on his birthday we ended up shooting each other in the face with a fire extinguisher, I stapled a beer can to his head and he nearly broke my leg with a golf club.
    I have never partaken in these kind of shenanigans

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