I had a thought about disciplining being either patriarchal or matriarchal, the former asserting "you aren't rough enough" and the latter asserting "you are too rough". That is, the former punishes meekness and rewards dominance and the latter vice versa? Is there anything to this? The former would entail/reward imperial and individualistic behavior, while the latter entails/rewards personal compromise and communal behavior.
Granted this buys heavily into conventional gender codes. But as a thought experiment, it could be interesting. The father scolds you for being too weak, the mother scolds you for being too rough. In tandem, they temper you into some kind of equilibrium beyond the scope of either of them.