Can you hug your opposite sex friend?

nilprenia

Well-known member
On the real I think hugging is relatively innocuous. I think kissing, even, is. Friendship is powerful but it's rare that you find a true ally
 

padraig (u.s.)

a monkey that will go ape
if other consenting adults want to hug each other, good for them. I'm not hug-shaming.

for me, I'd much rather, and am much more likely to, casually fuck somebody than casually hug them
 

padraig (u.s.)

a monkey that will go ape
not for the express purpose of "breaking the bourgeois romanticism attached to sex" I can't claim to match third's steely resolve in that area

tho if it's a happy byproduct, sure, why not
 

padraig (u.s.)

a monkey that will go ape
I forgot one more acceptable hugging situation - after you just fought someone (as in a ring - boxing, Muay Thai, MMA, etc)

that's the closest shared physical intimacy to sex there is so it falls under the same general heading
 

thirdform

Well-known member
Would you hold hands with a good friend? Intimacy looks different in some parts

why not? anglo-americans analyse everything. nothing is allowed to breathe. If you subscribe to that line of thinking, then you have to consider this hypothetical scenario. You are at a friends house, and they have very kindly guested you a guest room and bed. Now you are alergic to sleeping with your clothes on, so you undress. and for whatever reason, you experience a subconscious nocturnal emission in your friends bed, with no trousers or underwear to absorb the cum. then, what is to be done? Do you never ever ever stay at a friends house for the logical possibility of this happening? Ever? This would be going beyond salafis, and yet angloamerican atheism leads exactly here and will make head chopping salafists look positively enlightened.
 

nilprenia

Well-known member
why not? anglo-americans analyse everything. nothing is allowed to breathe. If you subscribe to that line of thinking, then you have to consider this hypothetical scenario. You are at a friends house, and they have very kindly guested you a guest room and bed. Now you are alergic to sleeping with your clothes on, so you undress. and for whatever reason, you experience a subconscious nocturnal emission in your friends bed, with no trousers or underwear to absorb the cum. then, what is to be done? Do you never ever ever stay at a friends house for the logical possibility of this happening? Ever? This would be going beyond salafis, and yet angloamerican atheism leads exactly here and will make head chopping salafists look positively enlightened.

The Western man revels in this sort of tension. He'd decline and come in his trousers anyway
 

thirdform

Well-known member
The Western man revels in this sort of tension. He'd decline and come in his trousers anyway

I just realised you are a kid and I'm not sure if it would be good adab for you to be on this forum. Please seek scholarly advice and consult multiple interpretations. This forum is an over-23s safe space. Being 19-22 is still child age for us, even if craner once had sex with a 22 year old bird at his workplace. Under English law that is totally fine. Under dissensus law, not so much.
 

nilprenia

Well-known member
I just realised you are a kid and I'm not sure if it would be good adab for you to be on this forum. Please seek scholarly advice and consult multiple interpretations. This forum is an over-23s safe space. Being 19-22 is still child age for us, even if craner once had sex with a 22 year old bird at his workplace. Under English law that is totally fine. Under dissensus law, not so much.

What is this, DeviantArt?
 

john eden

male pale and stale
Paging Dr Reich @DannyL

I've not hugged anyone except my daughter during the pandemic. Used to get hugs from some female colleagues, mates... it's good when you get to that sort of level. I'm not generally an initiator of hugs with women. It's good though, I miss it.
 

padraig (u.s.)

a monkey that will go ape
the worst is the perfunctory bro hug, where they lean in, gently touch their shoulders together and do the two quick pats on the back thing. just fuck off.
my position - shake hands or fuck, anything in between is copout limbo - applies 1000% to bros

like either keep it perfunctory or man up, embrace that latent homoeroticism and fuck each other, guys

I say that, let's be clear, as a bro myself, albeit one who tries to be enlightened (or as we now have to call it by law, "woke")
 

padraig (u.s.)

a monkey that will go ape
seriously tho, it's not my bag but if men (or anyone) want to have platonic physical contact and they get something out of it, good for them.

whether it's homosocial, cross-gender, rejects gender entirely, whatever - same as always, consenting adults do what feels good for you
 
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