mistersloane
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I'm too cool to post on this thread.
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Guybrush
Dittohead
I think she means that it’s impossible to think of your friends in terms of adjectives if you have a tight relationship with them. To paraphrase Derrick May, ‘they are what they are.’
As far as my acquaintances (as opposed to my friends) are concerned, I would venture to guess that half of them think that I’m an arrogant toff, albeit a jovial one, and half of them think that I’m charm impersonated. None of my friends are into culture (in whichever highbrow/lowbrow guise it might take) all that much, so my interest in that area is seen more as a hobby akin to train-spotting than as something that could be considered ‘cool’ (a highly dubious term in itself).
Mr. Tea
Let's Talk About Ceps
Yeah? Well I'm too sexy for my shirt...
barry_abs
lil' beyutch
is talking about your own image a taboo subject? in general, is it done?
the risks of coming across vain, insecure, paranoid, cocky etc. are high..
regardless of what previous poster said, we do care what people think.. why would we bother posting if we didn't? this forum is a vehicle to give and receive feedback on each others thoughts.
the risks of coming across vain, insecure, paranoid, cocky etc. are high..
regardless of what previous poster said, we do care what people think.. why would we bother posting if we didn't? this forum is a vehicle to give and receive feedback on each others thoughts.
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nomadologist
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deeply patronizing? i suppose that's a risk when you're answering a question as vital and serious as "do people think you're cool"...
what i meant was, as guybrush touched on, the people whose opinions matter to me are so close, as close as family, in a way that precludes considerations of 'coolness'
if that's "patronizing" then so be it
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nomadologist
Guest
and trust me, i haven't broadcasted like 1/100 of what i've been through. i make sure to keep with the lighter, more fun material.
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nomadologist
Guest
how can you possibly say that "we" do anything. isn't that, as many here would say, a "generalization"? and a dangerous one.
is there anything wrong with being self-satisfied enough not to care what joe schmoe on the street thinks of you? i don't think so.
barry_abs
lil' beyutch
sorry about the ambiguity.. by "do people think you're cool" i mean "do people like you"..
barry_abs
lil' beyutch
do you care what dissensus members think of you?
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nomadologist
Guest
not in the slightest. though i like them from what i know of them!
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nomadologist
Guest
wait--do people actually care what people on the INTERNET think of them? god i have too much else to worry about i guess
barry_abs
lil' beyutch
are you sure?
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nomadologist
Guest
also, when i said barry was on a different "plane", i meant to imply that he was talking ABOUT a different social plane, not that he doesn't have close friends or anything. sorry, you are right-- that was poorly worded.
Mr. Tea
Let's Talk About Ceps
Oh, sure. I might vote after all, then.
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nomadologist
Guest
absolutely. the internet is a pressure valve for me. when i am stressed or have manic energy, i find it a safe way to release with minimal peripheral damage to myself or others. i do not take it seriously enough to care about it.
which is not to say there aren't a lot of fun, interesting people on here who seem very informed and into the same things i am. i don't doubt i would be friends with them under "real world" circumstances.
IdleRich
IdleRich
I genuinely thought you meant "are you hip?" or something like that. I wonder what all of the people who voted thought it meant when they voted. I notice that one person has said "people think I'm a prick" - which is pretty unambiguous whatever meaning you attach to "cool", I wonder who it was.
I'm with barry on being somewhat dubious that nomad (or anyone else, for that matter) could not care at all about what other people think about her/them. I mean, if suddenly all Dissensus turned on you nomad (hypothetically speaking, y'know!) and started saying all sorts of terrible things about you, wouldn't you be at least a bit disappointed? Perhaps a smidgen annoyed or hurt?
I always thing of clothes in this example. If someone really didn't give a damn, wouldn't they just wake up every morning and wear the absolute most comfortable clothes possible? Go outside in your pajamas and what not. But that never happens. People give a damn about what other people see (and think) when they look at them. Yes there's different gradations of this, but I don't think there's an absolute zero.
I think the flip side of the question "do people like me" is "do you want people to like you?" And, though you may not want ALL people to like you, I'd be pretty worried about a person who didn't want to be liked at all.
ps. poll is missing "all of the above" option
I always thing of clothes in this example. If someone really didn't give a damn, wouldn't they just wake up every morning and wear the absolute most comfortable clothes possible? Go outside in your pajamas and what not. But that never happens. People give a damn about what other people see (and think) when they look at them. Yes there's different gradations of this, but I don't think there's an absolute zero.
I think the flip side of the question "do people like me" is "do you want people to like you?" And, though you may not want ALL people to like you, I'd be pretty worried about a person who didn't want to be liked at all.
ps. poll is missing "all of the above" option
i'm very open, trusting, and have little to no sense of boundaries. so while always well meaning (if nothing else to make boring or unpleasant situations better by cracking a joke) i sometimes tend to step on people's toes. especially when my wit does circles around people "in charge". in work situations i've had to seriously tone down my personality... but the best solution is to not work in an office, and only spend time with people i choose to be around.
it's very easy for me to meet people, most of which don't last, but some become friends, and a few lovers. i think i'm actually naturally, instinctively very shy, but have had to get-over-it through circumstances, which forced me to to out-going (moving to a new continent at the age of 12 will do that to a kid).
i tend toward trying to please people, and i do care that i am generally liked.
people sometimes mistake kindness for weakness. which is too bad.
it's very easy for me to meet people, most of which don't last, but some become friends, and a few lovers. i think i'm actually naturally, instinctively very shy, but have had to get-over-it through circumstances, which forced me to to out-going (moving to a new continent at the age of 12 will do that to a kid).
i tend toward trying to please people, and i do care that i am generally liked.
people sometimes mistake kindness for weakness. which is too bad.
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nomadologist
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i'd go find something else to do. like one of the million more important things i should be doing instead of being online