Oh please, anyone who knows any gay people or is one knows exactly what gay people are still up against.
Actually, I am gay, so I certainly have a person interest in this debate, not only an intellectual interest. I don't feel 'accepted' by most people, no, but you cannot campaign to be accepted, you can only campaign for rights, and now I have all the rights I want, speaking strictly as a gay person.
Further, it seems I could be accepted if I fulfilled the role of one of those gay stereotypes you described earlier. I certainly don't see anything wrong with gay people adopting, or marrying, no, but there's certainly nothing radical about it. Most gay people I know only want these things so they'll 'fit in' and lead 'normal' lives, which is fine, but subtract their sexuality, and these are the most conformist people I've ever met. Pink pound innit.
Actually, what most upset me about being gay was that I'd never be able to father children (or at least in a marriage with a woman & all that entails), but I realized that personally couldn't care less about having children; I only felt deprived of that dream because that's what I thought would satisfy my family, my grandmother for instance, my father - who only recently said to me 'it's a shame you've not got kids to look forward to, if you're feeling depressed, that's the one thing that gave meaning to my life, tho i suppose you could adopt'.
Poetix has summed it up quite well imo. I'll add more later, given chance.