Corpsey
bandz ahoy
Same here I think. This thread spawned from browsing a dating app and being confronted with this endless stream of genuinely smiling people who love travelling and cooking and dogs and maybe there's a funny picture with a drink.
I should go outside but it's raining.
I mean this might be stating the obvious but people on dating apps are trying to appear attractive, which means looking happy, looking adventurous, looking active and all the rest of it. I wouldn't say that any social media, let alone a dating app, gives you an insight into the fullness of a person.
I have found that the people I get on best with usually turn out to have been unhappy to the point of getting therapy. It makes sense, because that's what I'm like. But everybody suffers in one way or another.
I'm 35, and I'm still battling my own nature, my own unhappiness. Some days I feel as depressed as I did when I was 25 and nearly suicidal. So I can't really speak from a position of having conquered anything but - be wary of romanticising unhappiness. I think a lot of people who are naturally quite pessimistic and shy are forced to romanticise and lionise unhappiness as a compensation for not being happy. I've done this for a long time. It's a trap.