Leo

Well-known member
No one really has the answers, there are no relationship road maps (please, don't mention bullshit PUAs). We all struggle along, question things, overthink things.
 

other_life

bioconfused
i dread to open this thread further lest my clothes take on the stink of Menfolk and your Problems. not me though, i'm different
 

Clinamenic

Binary & Tweed
No one really has the answers, there are no relationship road maps (please, don't mention bullshit PUAs). We all struggle along, question things, overthink things.
True, and I don't have the remotest interest in PUAs, unless I try hard enough to contrive an interest, which is possible.
 

other_life

bioconfused
everyone in this thread who feels like they have 'sex problems' should watch alejandro jodorowsky's complete directorial feature filmography in chronological order and in a short span of time (bearing in mind that he 100% did rape that woman)
 

catalog

Well-known member
I dunno if this is appropriate or relevant, might be a bit of a random thing to say... but one of the things I used to love about going out to a rave or squat party was that you might dance for hours and hours, get wasted on drugs etc.

But at some point in the morning you'd end up in a room with people, all tired and sometimes you can be very very lucid and talk things out in quite a plain way.

I think you need to find a way to get out of your head and into your body.
 

other_life

bioconfused
I dunno if this is appropriate or relevant, might be a bit of a random thing to say... but one of the things I used to love about going out to a rave or squat party was that you might dance for hours and hours, get wasted on drugs etc.

But at some point in the morning you'd end up in a room with people, all tired and sometimes you can be very very lucid and talk things out in quite a plain way.

I think you need to find a way to get out of your head and into your body.
common pathology of dissensus (which i possess in spades)
 

Clinamenic

Binary & Tweed
Might beg to differ on arcane and technical grounds, but really I would agree, given what we are talking about, what experiences life offers.
 

catalog

Well-known member
It's maybe a trite thing for me to say, and I'm as guilty as anyone else on here for living in my head too much, but getting out of head and into body somehow, it's always the way forward.
 

Clinamenic

Binary & Tweed
I agree, if we are trying to calm down and recenter ourselves, which sometimes I have difficulty doing, but not always. Much of the time I am actively and consciously willing to cerebrally stir things up, willing to agitate my own mental state, if I expect it to yield interesting thoughts. I think I tend to take it quite far sometimes, but that feels like what I am signing up for.

But I agree, the cure to this sort of agitation seems to be getting back into one's body. Just sometimes the cerebral momentum is too overwhelming, i.e. trying to think my way back into my body.
 

Clinamenic

Binary & Tweed
But I do tend to think that you can discover even certain sequences of thoughts that lead you to stop thinking, but really now that I read this I might say that certain feelings should be followed out of one's thought, feelings that are perhaps better left unarticulated, unconceptualized.
 

catalog

Well-known member
I agree, if we are trying to calm down and recenter ourselves, which sometimes I have difficulty doing, but not always. Much of the time I am actively and consciously willing to cerebrally stir things up, willing to agitate my own mental state, if I expect it to yield interesting thoughts. I think I tend to take it quite far sometimes, but that feels like what I am signing up for.

But I agree, the cure to this sort of agitation seems to be getting back into one's body. Just sometimes the cerebral momentum is too overwhelming, i.e. trying to think my way back into my body.
I mean, that's a good point. I hear what your saying. And it's great, getting dizzy in your thoughts, there's nothing better.

Especially if you are very open about it, like you are. It's cool.

You just need to figure out a way you can do it around someone you fancy. I'm sure it'll happen soon.
 

catalog

Well-known member
But I do tend to think that you can discover even certain sequences of thoughts that lead you to stop thinking, but really now that I read this I might say that certain feelings should be followed out of one's thought, feelings that are perhaps better left unarticulated, unconceptualized.
Thinking on its own is probably overrated, but that's why you've got dissensus.
 
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