True, and I don't have the remotest interest in PUAs, unless I try hard enough to contrive an interest, which is possible.No one really has the answers, there are no relationship road maps (please, don't mention bullshit PUAs). We all struggle along, question things, overthink things.
common pathology of dissensus (which i possess in spades)I dunno if this is appropriate or relevant, might be a bit of a random thing to say... but one of the things I used to love about going out to a rave or squat party was that you might dance for hours and hours, get wasted on drugs etc.
But at some point in the morning you'd end up in a room with people, all tired and sometimes you can be very very lucid and talk things out in quite a plain way.
I think you need to find a way to get out of your head and into your body.
Yeah, whereas much of this can be seen as trying to think my way out of my head.I think you need to find a way to get out of your head and into your body.
I mean, that's a good point. I hear what your saying. And it's great, getting dizzy in your thoughts, there's nothing better.I agree, if we are trying to calm down and recenter ourselves, which sometimes I have difficulty doing, but not always. Much of the time I am actively and consciously willing to cerebrally stir things up, willing to agitate my own mental state, if I expect it to yield interesting thoughts. I think I tend to take it quite far sometimes, but that feels like what I am signing up for.
But I agree, the cure to this sort of agitation seems to be getting back into one's body. Just sometimes the cerebral momentum is too overwhelming, i.e. trying to think my way back into my body.
Thinking on its own is probably overrated, but that's why you've got dissensus.But I do tend to think that you can discover even certain sequences of thoughts that lead you to stop thinking, but really now that I read this I might say that certain feelings should be followed out of one's thought, feelings that are perhaps better left unarticulated, unconceptualized.
Yeah, that does sound nice.You just need to figure out a way you can do it around someone you fancy. I'm sure it'll happen soon.