I think this is the problem. 14 is too late to read TLotR for the first time; by that age, you're aware of girls as something other than a source of irritation, peer pressure is starting to become a major force in your social existence and everyone is striving to be 'cool'. I'd probably have had no time for Tolkien if I'd come across it at that age but I read TLotR when I was 10/11, which is probably the ideal age; old enough to appreciate the beauty of the language and have the attention span required to read a book that long, but not yet old enough to find it twee, sexless and desperately 'uncool'. Or you can take droid's approach and (re-)read it as an adult, when you're mature enough to consciously put your cynicism aside and just enjoy it for what it is (by 'you' I mean 'one', not you personally).
I still love Tolkien but I can see why a lot of people find it risible. I like 'proper' books too...