i realize that i'm kinda out of the ordinary with my maybe extreme openness: i use my real name on this board and other internet places, and would reveal to pretty much any stranger (that i have a good feeling about) just about anything about myself, from my political views to my personal history, psychological background, and private life.
this may or may not stem from a fundamental (fatal?) belief in the benign nature of people in general.
being this way has caused trouble before, in the work place among other situations, and i have learnt to be more discreet; but i am still basically the person that i am - an open book.
my thoughts on this are as follows:
i have nothing to hide what so ever. while not proud of my mistakes, am not ashamed of them either. and while i do admit to wanting to be liked and accepted, i don't really give a shit what anyone knows or thinks about me. because, this sounds corny but it's true, real friends will like me for who i am anyway, not a fabricated image i construct by editing out things i don't want people to know about.
and one thing i do believe in is sharing, and communicating, and connecting with people. i think this makes everyone's lives richer and more meaningful.
after all, we all live for about 70-80 years on average, and then we die. all we have are these fleeting moments, during which we can be stingy, curmudgeon-y, stiff and isolated, or we can have some fun, share experiences with each other, and maybe even reach for some higher level of understanding.
i meet people who seem to be very much closed all the time, the sort of people who turn their noses up at everything and everyone at parties. people who show no love, no enthusiasm, no passion, no warmth. people who do not want to share or try to make the passage of time more interesting. and the only thing i can think of as cause of this kind of behavior is fear.
i mean i understand that a certain level of privacy is healthy and necessary, and is good just to keep bullshit and drama away (as previously mentioned) but beyond that what is the big deal with being all private and secretive? is it a virtue in some people's eyes? why?
this may or may not stem from a fundamental (fatal?) belief in the benign nature of people in general.
being this way has caused trouble before, in the work place among other situations, and i have learnt to be more discreet; but i am still basically the person that i am - an open book.
my thoughts on this are as follows:
i have nothing to hide what so ever. while not proud of my mistakes, am not ashamed of them either. and while i do admit to wanting to be liked and accepted, i don't really give a shit what anyone knows or thinks about me. because, this sounds corny but it's true, real friends will like me for who i am anyway, not a fabricated image i construct by editing out things i don't want people to know about.
and one thing i do believe in is sharing, and communicating, and connecting with people. i think this makes everyone's lives richer and more meaningful.
after all, we all live for about 70-80 years on average, and then we die. all we have are these fleeting moments, during which we can be stingy, curmudgeon-y, stiff and isolated, or we can have some fun, share experiences with each other, and maybe even reach for some higher level of understanding.
i meet people who seem to be very much closed all the time, the sort of people who turn their noses up at everything and everyone at parties. people who show no love, no enthusiasm, no passion, no warmth. people who do not want to share or try to make the passage of time more interesting. and the only thing i can think of as cause of this kind of behavior is fear.
i mean i understand that a certain level of privacy is healthy and necessary, and is good just to keep bullshit and drama away (as previously mentioned) but beyond that what is the big deal with being all private and secretive? is it a virtue in some people's eyes? why?
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