I think taking on being a parent as your sole or primary identity can easily get quite irritating for others.
Or want to listen to whatever is in the charts at the time, and not Roxy Music/Aaliyah/Killah Priest.On a personal note, I mostly worry about how I’ll react when my children want to read Harry Potter instead of Homer.
Danny I'm sorry about the tone if you ever get upset with me again remember I'm 25 and therefore cannot help being a shit headI have to say the tone of the OP irked me a little. It's a bit as if anything emotionally important can't be said without being pissed and deferred a bit via humour. I say this 'cos I've had a lot of similar reactions from my mates who don't have kids - you get this kinda bravado about it which can grate and look a bit sad by the time they're in their 40s.
Having said that, having kids is pretty fucking amazing, though like anything that important, it totally upends your life. The whole process of seeing your partner's pregnancy and (if you'e lucky) a good birth is just incredible. The fact it happens thousands of times a day doesn't make it less miraculous. And then you get to see your kid age, grow, learn, this weird little animal becomes human. I'm deeply interested in all aspects of this due to being an aspiring psychotherapist but they seem to me like vital parts of life that its a shame not to experience. It does take attention and time away from yourself and your own pursuits of course, and that's always a trade off. There's definitely "before" and "after children" in my own life. But those are the breaks and you're never going to have a life free from conflicts that come with career, work, responsibility, relationships, ageing and so on. Kids are part of that mix (or not, maybe, depending on you).
I have no respect for Craner, none. What's he ever done for me? What proofs of divinity has he lately manufactured? The Old Gods are family fictions passed down over generations. Myths from a simpler time.
Yeah, as a kid I don’t remember being the central fact of my parent’s lives, same with my cousins. We’d get shoved in a room with some Lego while they got on with whatever.
It's all good mate. I'm not offended or owt, I was just being honest. It's a bit of a fraught emotional minefield for everyone as you can see from al the responses. Good topic I thought.Danny I'm sorry about the tone if you ever get upset with me again remember I'm 25 and therefore cannot help being a shit head
Thank you for your sincere response it has been sincerely taken these are things that need thinking on
Mate, in the context of this forum, @craner is one of the Old Gods. Show some fucking respect.I have no respect for Craner, none. What's he ever done for me? What proofs of divinity has he lately manufactured? The Old Gods are family fictions passed down over generations. Myths from a simpler time.
A weird thing about having a baby during the pandemic is that so much of your normal stuff is on hold anyway and you have no idea how far it'd have taken over your life in other circumstances. Like, I'd assume that you're going to spend proportionately more of your time getting excited about tiny developmental milestones when the other highlights of your life are Wednesday Zoom Pub and Bandcamp Friday.I think taking on being a parent as your sole or primary identity can easily get quite irritating for others.