i agree with woops here
In what way does melancholy strive for a pure ideal? Im not sure of that. It's a feeling. Does it necessarily have a logic?
noone falls in love in 2019 though. literally no one. the motivations are far more base and transactional. of course this has positives and negatives.
Is it a feeling though? uusualy we can define feelings. melancholia seems to be so subjective and always invokes the past. sadness, tearfulness or depression doesn't necessarily have to.
well it's the same as feeling somber isn't it ultimately if we cut it down to its essential. you seem to want a melancholy that can be totally presentist. how can you be somber without invoking the past?
No I don't think so. I think it is different to feeling somber precisely because of the voluptuousness and temptation to wallow. I think it is delicious and that is what sets it apart. I don't think it is sny more linked to the past than it is to the future
Like any other self respecting adolescent I loved nothing more than wallowing in voluptuous melancholy. Nothing feels better. But at some point in my early 20s I decided that it was Unmanly and unbecoming, tawdry and self indulgent, and that I had to put a stop to it and ever since that door has been bolted. I can't find my way back to that emotion.