this is masterful showmanship. that interplay between authoritarian and vulnerable. letting you in, you drop your guard and then he grabs you and takes you.
its something putin does. he'll do all stuff where he's stroking a kitten and then he'll go do a judo.
to bring it back to my inevitably grubby level, its also the key to female sexuality; that interplay- and sometimes even ambiguity- between sensuality and dominance.
A large part of Princes problem with MJ must have been that MJ was the ultimate insider. A child star in the most successful black owned record label of them all. Royalty. An actual prince. Working with Quincey Jones. In the grand tradition. And Prince was the ultimate Outsider. From the middle of fucking nowhere. Hicksville. Where they don't even have any black people.