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I'm quite capable of making rooms an 8 or 9 through sheer creativitySounds like you're just a sloppy little guinea pig in denial.
I'm quite capable of making rooms an 8 or 9 through sheer creativitySounds like you're just a sloppy little guinea pig in denial.
Ping ponging between 1 and 2. The AI's really putting me off, though. Think I said this before, but the life-changing event for me was watching The Hunt For Britain's Paedophiles. Every single one of them had a cluttered, messy home: it's as big a 'nonce tell' as liking Star Trek or getting higher than a B in maths. After that, I realised all those "everything in its place!" types weren't just being pedantic wankers.i wanna know @martin's score
I can barely see it but looks like Carlos The Jackal and Yoko Ono's lovechild.and his opinion on the mystery portrait
repeating to myself "...think of the nonces..."
this sounds like insight gleaned from stifling hours behind ppe in utmost squalor
Word Hoarding
In the lists of what hoarders commonly keep paper is one of the most frequent. These are paper things: newspapers, magazines, paper packaging, books. What do they have in common? Words. Words and text are the most common way we have of remembering things. We write lists. We keep letters. We re-read books.
A word clot/clog is a stubborn unpleasant lump. Most people do not enjoy dealing with word materials. Filing and paperwork are regarded as boring. But, central for everyone is that those word things are part of being a responsible adult. Throwing them away, particularly without reading them completely, feels childish and irresponsible. So they pile up. Keeping post but not opening or dealing with it is another common feature of a disordered household. Both anger and fear can contribute to this.
We have sat with clients and processed through three years of post. They are often very surprised at how much of it is junk. Many of these clients have arranged direct debits for their bills. This is a survival choice. Studies have shown that compulsive hoarders often end up homeless. Not reading post, means that the person does not know when bills have come due or notices issued. This will eventually result in eviction.
Hoarders with piles of paper are not hoarding paper in the way that a bottle hoarder is hoarding bottles. They are hoarding the words. This is different. Friends and family see a pile of old newspapers. They and the researchers describe old newspapers as ‘paper’. The word hoarder sees a pile of words. Is there the funniest article ever written in that pile? Is there information I need to know about my next holiday? The list of possibilities is endless. In order to be sure, the hoarder has to read every single word. Then having read it, they then say ‘I need to save this in case I need to read it again’.
It is this that makes it so hard to process. How can one place a value on all those words. What wasn’t important yesterday, may be important tomorrow. It would take a very long time to read all the words. Many times it would be more years than the person has left. We have a number of clutter clients who do suffer from word hoarding. They will keep everything the bank ever sends them, all their old magazines etc. Clearing their old clothes or bric-a-brac is comparatively easy, they can often tell at a glance whether they want it or not. To process words they have to be read. With clutter clients there are a number of strategies:
All these things are true and may help some people, but for a full-fledged word hoarder, they will have little or no effect. A word hoarder needs to let go of the words. The paper is just the supporting medium.
- Newspapers stop being ‘new’ when you keep them
- Newspapers are kept in libraries.
- Much of this information is available on line. Ask yourself, when you want the answer to a question do you read all the things you have or do you Google
- Lots of information is time sensitive: special offers go out of date, the council has new rules, the bank has changed their terms etc.
Given the prevalence of word hoarding among compulsive hoarders, it would be appropriate for researchers to study the efficacy of books and writing things down as part of treatment. We encounter many books and articles on de-cluttering in the homes of our clutter clients. In one extreme case, there were 40 books. The client referred to them as her ‘pornography’. Clutter clients can see buying the book as solving the problem. Equally, buying storage solutions can be seen as an alternative to doing the filing.
from this gruesome website that requires a trigger warning for the faint of heart or weak of stomach for appalling alchohol-induced interior design strategies, and i suspect they have avoided photographing the very worst spots
Word Hoarding | UK Hoarded House Clearance
In the lists of what hoarders commonly keep paper is one of the most frequent. These are paper things: newspapers, magazines, paper packaging, books. What do they have in common? Words.www.compulsive-hoarding.org
As I understand the lore on this issue, attempting to simply discard a cursed object will either invite immediate disaster or end up with the object somehow eventually coming back into your possession. The only way to get rid of both object and curse is to trick someone into accepting it as a gift. Then you get to laugh maniacally and yell "At last, I'm free!" while the recipient looks doubtfully at their new possession.
Probably they want you to get rid of all your DVDs so you gotta hire things you never own from Netflix etc - if they can tell people it's spiritually good for them to buy in to their business model so much the better.did you see that doc on netflix? "The Minimalists" it did make me retch a bit - as much as there some truth in there, it's definitely a trip for the hipster batchelor.
actually that it was on Netflix was interesting in itself - there's an aspect of these streaming platforms which is geared towards/in sympathy with decluttering. it might even be a good thing! humanity's next stage etc.
Same. Thought I was messy but I draw the line long before 2.I'm also a 1.
I notice you never replied to the question about whether you had ever had sex. Maybe if you took down the "No girls allowed" sign from your door, washed the jizz stains off the sheets, walls, ceilings etc and just generally tidied up a bit, one day you might be able to answer in the affirmative... maybe.The problem with that clutter scale is that cluttering's only really a problem when one begins to single-handedly push one's communal workplace through the ratings; the bedroom is a safe space for clutter
"What is it? What have you found?"I think we all go through a similar stage. I remember living in a place where the kitchen was piled to the ceiling with dirty plates. The only light was by opening the microwave or fridge, the living room was the same, some spare ribs lying on the floor - my friend said "that's a relief, I thought a cat had wandered in and died" etc etc walls so thin you could see your breath, broken toilet so had to use a nearby pub, random people sleeping in my bed when I came in.
Have you been re-reading your Jordan Peterson?I notice you never replied to the question about whether you had ever had sex. Maybe if you took down the "No girls allowed" sign from your door, washed the jizz stains off the sheets, walls, ceilings etc and just generally tidied up a bit, one day you might be able to answer in the affirmative... maybe.
Playarandom people sleeping in my bed when I came in.
I remember during this period my roomates threw a party, but I didnt want to participate- i just stayed in my room and tried to sleep. During the party an old friend came up to say hi but when they saw the state of my room they were clearly startled and taken aback and I remember thinking in that moment 'this is what we do it for'I think we all go through a similar stage. I remember living in a place where the kitchen was piled to the ceiling with dirty plates. The only light was by opening the microwave or fridge, the living room was the same, some spare ribs lying on the floor - my friend said "that's a relief, I thought a cat had wandered in and died" etc etc walls so thin you could see your breath, broken toilet so had to use a nearby pub, random people sleeping in my bed when I came in.