I think it goes without saying that Israel treats its own people better than does any other state in the Middle East - but that doesn't cancel out their appalling treatment of the Palestinians, does it? Not to mention their recent ultra-heavy-handed invasion of southern Lebanon (and while I of course support Israel's right to defend itself from Hizbullah, that does NOT give it the right to raze entire villages in another sovereign state).
Well, the whole situation with Palestine is one continuous fuck up really. I certainly support the creation of an independent Palestine - though bearing in mind the offer of a Palestinian state was rejected by Arafat, and that the Palestinians currently have an elected governement who's charter is a full on anti-semitic hate-fest, who sponsor human bombs to kill Israeli civilians in night clubs (because they are disgusting places - fuck off and die, basically), bearing in mind that Israel really wants peace and not death (not true of the Hezb, for e.g.), beaing in mind that annexation of land has always followed wars begun by arab states, bearing in mind the systematic poisoning of Palestinian (to say nothing of Arab more generally) youth against Israel and the Jews, etc ...
Then there's the hyperboles that are thrown at Isreal. Israelis are Nazis: probably the most sickening, possibly the most prevelant (though the links between radical arab politics and the NSDAP are well documented; the Mufti of Jerusalem, etc), Israel is an apartheid state, etc ...
Lebanon was a terrible waste, and terrible for a country which is the most resonant with Western values as well. What has happened there is a great shame, but Israel has been in this position before, with the PLO launching attacks from a vaguely sympathetic state and then retreating into no-state actor cover. They have to do something if the Lebanese government will not. It is a pity that this time they were out thought and out fought by Hezbollah, and that they will be in the same situation very soon.
On the point about holding Israel to higher standards than other states - well, that may be true. But Israel holds itself up as a modern, liberal democracy in the Western model, in distinct contrast to many other states in the region which are unashamedly theocratic dictatorships. It's the same reason people get much more upset over Guantanamo Bay and Abu Ghraib than the (much larger scale) torture and political incarceration that went on under Saddam: America is meant to be one of the 'good guys'.
Yeah, I agree, I just wanted to see if we saw eye to eye. Although, there's more to your US examples than that, and - America is one of the good guys.