Mr. Tea
Let's Talk About Ceps
that's just a huge over-simplification. my dad didn't fit into either and friends who have kids and have seperated from the mother of their child don't either.
nor is the 'system' biased against fathers in the way you describe- fathers' lack of payments is a much bigger deal
the issue is not about fathers, its about wider social breakdown
1) I never said this describes every instance of family break-up that happens. Someone I know was brought up by her dad between the ages of 13 and 18 after her mum left and it was extremely difficult for her dad to claim child benefit for her, because the assumption is that that kids are going to stay with the mum - which brings me on to my point about the bias in the system. If a separated/divorced mother wants to stop her ex seeing their kids, there's damn near nothing he can do about it within the law; given how rancorous divorces often are, this unfortunately allows kids to be used as a weapon by one partner against the other.
2) I don't know how you can quantify the relative sizes of the two problems here, they're both bad and (reasoned, sensible) attempts to remedy both of them can only be a good thing.
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