scottdisco
rip this joint please
i had Bordieu coming out of my ass at the mid-level English midlands university i attended as an undergrad, but there again that was for sociology modules, the perennial dosser discipline 
i had Bordieu coming out of my ass at the mid-level English midlands university i attended as an undergrad, but there again that was for sociology modules, the perennial dosser discipline![]()
So you can be a coward who does nothing for your own greater political goals than pontificate on the internet, but by deciding on a truism (specifically, that we need to decide on what our absolute truths are in order to act politically) you will be uniquely "redeemed" over and against anyone who is as yet not sure what the best course of action might be for humanity. Philosophers will play a key role in this type of redemption because they have somehow flipped the script and found an Archimedian axis point that is suspended outside of the ideological world and which will ultimately form a Truth-lever that Philosophers (anybody who is into naming Forms) will use to move the globe politically.
In that case, I'm golden. I mostly just read books, lie around, sleep till at least noon, write stuff on the internet, and never get involved in politics unless I have to. (Well, unless voting for Obama counts...) I think everything I say is absolutely true and I hate almost everyone who disagrees with me.
I am queer myself. Nice to meet you.
So, your experience of being gay is the universal one? How do you know what someone else's motivation would be in adopting or starting a family? That's a rather huge leap to make. I respect your personal experience, but please, don't tell me what I want and why I want it.
I want no biological children, and I want no marriage, but I do want my partner to be able to go on my health insurance, when I'm working, as mine will undoubtedly be more comprehensive. I want my partner to be able to visit me if I'm in the hospital dying of cancer, without restrictions. I am considering adoption as a valid option simply because I think there are too many orphans in China, and sub-Saharan Africa, and elsewhere, for me to enter into parenthood for anything but unselfish reasons. I really don't want kids, at all. But I do think it may be the right thing to do, if I can one day afford them.
(Belatedly) Nice to meet you too.
I'm not claiming any universal insight; I'm not even sure I have greater access than a heterosexual does to any sort of queer subjectivity. But I do suppose that most people start a family when they feel some lack in their own lives, it's the only thing that will give them something to live for... so I can't help feeling suspicious that people might be ruled by selfishness here, and wishing that gay people were somehow radically outside that.
Having children seems to me something like proclaiming yourself dead. (Though I quite agree with you regards adoption)
I don't know what psychologists you've been studying, but the idea that guilt is valuable is a little oldfashioned at this point, isn't it? Better to take responsibility and live with consequences than to wallow in guilt (which is generally considered a counter-productive and reactionary feeling rather than a positive and productive emotion), no?
I haven't really been studying any psychologists lol (I am probably decidedly undereducated compared to everyone else on this thread) ;P But I strongly feel that many people need to feel much more guilt than they do. Though at the same time, I feel I've spent far too much time feeling guilty and yes, it has prevented me from taking action that I might otherwise have taken - it could be an unproductive emotion - my feelings toward it are ambivalent.
Anyway, I've been watching a lot of The Sopranos recently, and I don't know, you've probably seen it, but Tony, who's a gangster that suffers anxiety attacks; his psychologist is in a total-bind because she knows he should be unhappy, since, after all, he's a no-good murderer and downright scoundrel, but at the same time, her job is to make him feel better about himself, to shore up his ego and allow him to be 'productive'...
Oh yes, I've seen the series, and it's a near perfect reference point for a discussion of guilt and psychoanalysis in contemporary culture. On top of the mitigating factors you already mentioned, there's also the lingering influence of Roman Catholicism on Tony, which is what contributes to his cripling anxiety in the first place. Tony isn't quite a sociopath, which is why he can feel this anxiety, and which is why his treatment isn't a complete failure, but Dr. Melfi is pathologically enmeshed in Tony's transference process. She enjoys Tony's power and exploits by-proxy, especially after her rape, and finds that even against her own psychologist's advice, and against professional guidelines (anxiety disorders respond best to CBT past a certain point in treatment), she can't bring herself to "dump" him. This keeps him from getting the treatment that might really help him realize his own guilt and find a way out of his dysfunctional behavior patterns.
So Tony's anxiety never translates into guilt in his life, only in Melfi's. Transference gone dangerous.
Having children seems to me something like proclaiming yourself dead....
Aso interesting is Carmella who demonstrates explicit Roman Catholic guilt. Interesting when Dr Melfi sends her to an older psychologist, who refuses to treat her, 'of course you're guilty, you're taking blood money' - does Melfi do this to assuage some of her own guilt, knowing that this is what the old school analyst complete with morals would say? - after which she entertains serious doubts about her marriage.
But it's paradoxically it's the church that offers her succor, she needn't feel guilty for Tony's actions, nor even complicit, as long as she finds whatever is good in her husband, and cherishes that. And as long as she lives upon whatever earnings that he's gained lawfully.
Disillusioned with Badiou: "...Badiou is revealed as a pathological system-builder, but to what end- to what avail does he build his awkward tower?"