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Exactly, that was really my point. Most of us function in situations where difference is normal, in one sense or another.

Or where you might belong, but you're scared to find out.

That was my point. Everyone was avoiding the main anxiety here, which is about their own sexuality. Dishonest, as you say. And yes, hilariously so.

and you were anxious about it? There's a specific fear about sexuality going on here too, to point out the obvious - what if you (in the general sense) were to find men attractive, what then?!

@the first day of school comment: not true, only people who've never been to a place where they're in the minority

Which is all part of a ludicrous straight fantasy

But seriously? I can't believe you lot can't conceive of going to a gay club, it's hilarious. The final frontier...

Having been to many gay clubs, I can assure you that the music varies just as it does in 'straight' clubs! Sometimes amazing, sometimes shit. What were you anxious about?

31% increase again in deaths in the UK (it was something like that yesterday). And that's just hospitals, not nursing homes. The numbers will be epic if this continues.

It's worked so often in the past four years, that I'd say it's a certainty. Most people seem to have accepted that 'herd immunity' was just mentioned as a thing, and not as a strategy, but it's on tape. I think the 500,000 - it's partly about claiming success, partly about seeing what they...

It is worrying to have someone at the heart of Tory government who's not fundamentally thick like the rest of them, but rather has drawn some really psychopathic conclusions after thinking things through. Damaged in a different way.

This is getting worryingly close to a Dominic Cummings staff briefing

That's really interesting, thanks.

The TV show 'Pose' - about 1980s Ball culture in New York - is pretty amazing on all this; even if it's not explicitly articulated, it's very present in the script. How racialisation/racism, homophobia/transphobia, sexism etc depend upon the creation (and daily recreation) of shame for their...

That's attempting to disguise one's narcissism. Can and does co-exist with what yyaldrin said - people with a lot of narcissism (whether or not they choose to try to disguise it), which connotes an attempt to disguise deep shame.

in a manner of speaking, definitely. Narcissism is not to be confused with actual self-confidence

I like this post, there's lots in there. In terms of the use of the word, then it's a simplification/distortion of the psychoanalytic meaning, but I guess that's fairly standard when technical terms become common currency. We're talking about narcissism in this context, right? In terms of...

Wow. First Slick Rick, now Jamie Principle. Is nothing sacred? Can't get my head around this. I think it's one of the best vocals ever, just beautiful.

Dunno, haven't seen the ego thread. It depends what you mean, really. If you're talking about pride, then in my experience it's not that simple. Massive fallings out are usually the result of long-term unworked-through problems and ambivalence, it's not always a matter of having too much pride...

I'm curious, if you can share, how the rapprochement came about. I fell out with my best school friend about 12 years ago after an argument, and it kinda feels insurmountable at this stage. If there's one falling out I regret, it's that one. Obviously an unwashed plate or an argument about a...