The 'debate' definitely provides cover for aggression thuggishness etc which is part of the reason I don't have any faith in the 'debate' and I don't think there is some magic combination of words which solves the problem and makes the conflict melt away even if it's logically consistent and artfully constructed.
it seems to be something more like an applied experiment or a series of experiments across a number of sites and we will wait and see what results we get, and the results might differ, you might get a mix of responses across for instance
Women's sports, womens contact sports, women's prizes (literary, acting, whatever prizes), women's toilets, women's quotas on various bodies, women's prisons, so on and so forth.
Again I see it as something to be worked out in real time with real people's lives and real painful consequences.