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luka

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For example I don't think anyone ever stopped wanking even when the whole machinery of religion, with all its guilt and threats of eternal damnation was mobilised against it.
 

constant escape

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Well wanking I think is an exception. I still wank, it just a routine purgative exercise that isn't dwelt on for too long. It marks the corporal libido, the incarnate libido. I'm still working to sublimate the desires beyond bodily expression, a process which may plateau at the manner in which it currently is, or perhaps it will succeed in fully abstracting the libido beyond its incarnate expression, which would render wanking obsolete.
 

constant escape

winter withered, warm
But I think banking on wanking, in terms of expressing/discharging pent up libidinal forces, is not only a waste of such energies - it can also make one feel bad.
 

luka

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It's the most obvious example but I think there are others though they may vary from individual to individual
 

luka

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These undercurrents of need and desire which assert themselves and upset our best laid plans
 
For women, wanking is often framed as self-care these days. Its notable how sexual acts, sex work, masturbation have been fully integrated within an ethical system, with a queer theory grounding. but obviously for men, for corpsey, for us, the wank is a shameful thing. why?
 
I think largely because of the way porn has hijacked the system

That's part of it. sex is the goal and getting it releases the dopamine. we dont need porn to wank. but porn gives us more opportunity to short circuit the system and feel guilt, unfulfilled about doing so

and theres arguably the influence of the wider social story of male sexuality as dangerous, perverse. this is what my women friends say to me, that its this, or catholic guilt, but i i think theres a neurochemical and hormonal difference in how we process orgasms too
 

Leo

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For women, wanking is often framed as self-care these days. Its notable how sexual acts, sex work, masturbation have been fully integrated within an ethical system, with a queer theory grounding. but obviously for men, for corpsey, for us, the wank is a shameful thing. why?

you also don't find opposite cases along the lines of Louie CK (for example, a woman telling a man she wants to masturbate in front of him) or Jeffrey Toobin (a woman caught masturbating on a work zoom video call). men are more fucked in the head about it, either thrilled by the danger and risk or ashamed in isolation.
 
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the quick answer is that men are more dangerous. which makes everyone more suspicious and judgmental about their sexuality, including themselves
 

constant escape

winter withered, warm
For women, wanking is often framed as self-care these days. Its notable how sexual acts, sex work, masturbation have been fully integrated within an ethical system, with a queer theory grounding. but obviously for men, for corpsey, for us, the wank is a shameful thing. why?
I've been trying to redefine how it registers to me, and self-care isn't far from the target, in terms of the optimal register. Its like a periodic purging of energies that would otherwise irrupt into one's mood and color one's reality accordingly, usually in terms of frustration, no? Its easy to see how this can be framed in terms of self-care.

However, instead of leaving the irrigation channels in their default psycho-physiological arrangement, seeking expression through orgasm, I do think such energies can be systematically abstracted from sexual expression, and find expression through alternative means.
 

constant escape

winter withered, warm
Psycho-physiological hygiene. Keeping the energies from swelling beyond critical thresholds, by way of constantly siphoning those energies into orthogonal and abstract expression. In my case, primarily intellectual. Seeking intellectual greatness, as a sort of libidinally conducive fantasy, a fantasy that can serve to inspire such constant siphoning.
 

Leo

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for men, it's a dirty, shameful impulse. for women, it's sometimes depicted as "relax and treat yourself", a pleasurable indulgence. like buying high-end chocolate or new pair of shoes.
 
Psycho-physiological hygiene. Keeping the energies from swelling beyond critical thresholds, by way of constantly siphoning those energies into orthogonal and abstract expression. In my case, primarily intellectual. Seeking intellectual greatness, as a sort of libidinally conducive fantasy, a fantasy that can serve to inspire such constant siphoning.

stan is a kundalini bro
 
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