Are happy people boring?

entertainment

entertainment

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I'm 26 now. People around me are starting to settle down.

The standardized smiles and satisfied normality are closing in and I find it all a bit off-putting. The model social expression of the common man living the common life. The disinterested contentment of a self-assured place in the world.

The domnant order of adulthood seems to be finding your own little space, furnished with reliable everyday routines, an appeasing, accordant idea of meaning and consistently cushioning its walls with supporting worldviews. Smile, go about your day.

This probably all sounds like a big cliche, but it's a new sensation for me. I find my self drawn towards the curious, the singular, the extraordinary that comes from dissatisfaction. Happy people seem more boring than ever.
 
Mr. Tea

Mr. Tea

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Good question, but I'm not sure there's a correlation tbh. There's plenty of people who are boring and miserable.
 
luka

luka

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You can see it just in the way they move. There's a lightness. They've found the magic frequency. They're the wise ones.

Smug self satisfied people are boring. Well adjusted people are boring. Happy people are magicians.
 
luka

luka

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No. Not habitually. But I'm not unhappy. I am happy sometimes but I struggle to stay there.
 
shiels

shiels

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entertainment said:
The domnant order of adulthood seems to be finding your own little space, furnished with reliable everyday routines, an appeasing, accordant idea of meaning and consistently cushioning its walls with supporting worldviews. Smile, go about your day.

This probably all sounds like a big cliche, but it's a new sensation for me. I find my self drawn towards the curious, the singular, the extraordinary that comes from dissatisfaction. Happy people seem more boring than ever.
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Are you on about wholesomeness? Twee. I’ve been trying to understand why i hate twee - is it the refusal to face the horrors and complexity of the world (and yourself) It springs from comfort and wants to maintain it, not through force but bland nicety and a kind of sentimental amnesiac nihilism
 
entertainment

entertainment

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Same here I think. This thread spawned from browsing a dating app and being confronted with this endless stream of genuinely smiling people who love travelling and cooking and dogs and maybe there's a funny picture with a drink.

I should go outside but it's raining.
 
entertainment

entertainment

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shiels said:
Are you on about wholesomeness? Twee. I’ve been trying to understand why i hate twee - is it the refusal to face the horrors and complexity of the world (and yourself) It springs from comfort and wants to maintain it, not through force but bland nicety and a kind of sentimental amnesiac nihilism
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yeah that resonates with my feeling
 
shiels

shiels

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Aye. Gin enthusiasts and people who “don’t take life too seriously”

“Love to laugh” AT WHAT?
“And travel✈️” BUT...WHERE?
“And dance” TO WHAT THO FFS???

I’m just jealous tbh
 
Leo

Leo

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maybe there used to be a wider and clearer divide between generations, the boring conformity of oldies seems to have seeped into a young demographic. you can see it in gentrified neighborhoods here: young people used to be the most recent wave of freaks and non-normals who fled their home towns to embrace the freedom of the NYC experience; many of the ones coming now are more interested in bringing their suburban, gated-community mentality TO the city and spending all their time at work or the gym.

also as tea alluded to, there are both interesting creative freaks and boring bastards in all age groups. not sure how old Idlerich is but he and his missus still seem to enjoy a lust for life! eden still goes to see a guy play a piece of string tied across an old kitchen sink at cafe Oto!
 
Leo

Leo

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also probably safe to say most of us have gone through this line of thinking at some point, brought on by a reflection of our own aging, the realization that our own carefree youth is slipping away. welcome to coming face-to-face with your own mortality!
 
john eden

john eden

male pale and stale
Whether someone is boring or not is subjective. Sometimes you need to dig deeper.

The idea of the lone brilliant individualist who never settles down and lives on the edge is very seductive. But probably most of us look settled to someone else.

It is a time of life thing though - mid twenties and early 30s. Identities are forged and there is pressure to succeed.
 
luka

luka

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Leo said:
maybe there used to be a wider and clearer divide between generations, the boring conformity of oldies seems to have seeped into a young demographic. you can see it in gentrified neighborhoods here: young people used to be the most recent wave of freaks and non-normals who fled their home towns to embrace the freedom of the NYC experience; many of the ones coming now are more interested in bringing their suburban, gated-community mentality TO the city and spending all their time at work or the gym.

also as tea alluded to, there are both interesting creative freaks and boring bastards in all age groups. not sure how old Idlerich is but he and his missus still seem to enjoy a lust for life! eden still goes to see a guy play a piece of string tied across an old kitchen sink at cafe Oto!
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This shocked me when I lived for a year near Islington and encountered all these very young couples shopping together in Cath Kidston or Laura Ashley or whatever. The rush to embrace domesticity.

Horrifying.

I strongly advise everyone to ignore what Eden's just said, he's trying to spoil our fun. This is a sneering thread. Never be ashamed of your contempt for other people. It's what makes life worth living.
 
luka

luka

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Very clean looking. Smooth cheeks. Something unformed about them. The pubs round there are gross too.
 
luka

luka

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Every now and then John turns into a Home Counties vicar and you have to quickly shake him out of it
 
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