your relationship with dad

[luka]

not as a completion but what was it like and how did it make you

 

[luka]

i loved my dad and idolised him and also hated and feared him

 

[luka]

i want to live my life in the same way. i have no desire to carve my own
path. i hated my dad and i want to be exactly like him.

 

[martin]

I wish I'd understood him more at the time. I think I do now but it's 20 years too late, or more if you count Alzheimer's dead air time.

I think we saw the worst sides of each other. Get jealous sometimes when I hear older siblings telling stories about the time he did this or that.

 

[luka]

my dad was really mean and viscious, really sadistic, and i want to be just like him

 

[william_kent]

It's difficult when your dad is dying, and then they are gone sooner than expected... It was only at his funeral and I talked to some of the people he 'managed' that I had no idea of who he was really

 

[luka]

I wish I'd understood him more at the time. I think I do now but it's 20 years too late, or more if you count Alzheimer's dead air time.

I think we saw the worst sides of each other. Get jealous sometimes when I hear older siblings telling stories about the time he did this or that.

theyre bad people. drunk, mean, nasty. but they carry a set of values we feel we have a duty to carry on

 

[catalog]

My dad died when I was 5, I never really knew him but I've got a good memory of him making me a bow and arrow kit so I could play cowboys and Indians.

 

[catalog]

I did a talk about him the other day. Weird but good.

 

[william_kent]

My dad died when I was 5, I never really knew him but I've got a good memory of him making me a bow and arrow kit so I could play cowboys and Indians.

I'm sorry, that's too young to lose a parent..

 

[luka]

it is. my best friend was 6 and i dont know if theyve ever come to terms with it. i was 26 and me & me and
my step brother are defined by it. we are both lost

 

[william_kent]

it is. my best friend was 6 and i dont know if theyve ever come to terms with it. i was 26 and me & me and
my step brother are defined by it. we are both lost

too young...

 

[luka]

we dint know how to be adults we relied on him utterly. he knew everything

 

[luka]

my dad ended up as a lawyer and it felt he knew everything about adult life and b me d bill know nothing he does concreting
i do what i do and we both feel so vulnerable and exposed. anyway so what but dads can be good

 

[william_kent]

my relationship with my dad was difficult, he always seemed very distant, but when he was on his death bed and i turned up and he smiled, it dissolved all the "am I a disappointment" ( which I was ) worries, and then, too late, i knew that he loved me.. too late..

 

[luka]

dads are good. frightening almost always, but good

 

[luka]

my relationship with my dad was difficult, he always seemed very distant, but when he was on his death bed and i turned up and he smiled, it dissolved all the "am I a disappointment" ( which I was ) worries, and then, too late, i knew that he loved me.. too late..

too late but chances are you are your dad, more or less. vicious and knowing and wise

 

[luka]

i was lucky in that he reached a stage at which i stopped being a disappointment and he liked me. had about 5 years where he thought i was actually ok

 

[william_kent]

too late but chances are you are your dad, more or less. vicious and knowing and wise

there's been points where I've said or done something and then thought "I've turned into my dad' and I don't know how to handle that

 

[luka]

i wont be a dad. but in retrospect i hated my dad and was terrified of my dad but i i am glad
i had that dad