I've been going out for decades and wasn't in the last few years that I got any flack - and it wasn't because of my disabilities, but because it was assumed that I was just cishet white guy for whom life must have always been a breeze. I'm not so dumb that I can't put two and two together that when I started having random unpleasant encounters a few years ago, the likes of which I had never had before, it was because I was a white guy.
And how much do you want to bet that many of those same people would or could also give me flack for my disability, especially when I was younger - especially before I learned how to carry myself and hide deficits.
I'm also tall and broad-shouldered* white guy so that probably aids in people's assumptions that everything has been easy-breezy easy-peasy for me even though I've constantly battled with thoughts of suicide since i was 8.
*Which hasn't always been great in itself, especially before I learned how to carry myself better, because it has been an invitation for guys wanting to fight me to score points, OR women I'm with to want to put me in danger (long stories - but happened with at least 3 different women wanting to test me, but then losing interest after I fail).
I also don't have good enough motor skills to be fighting due to my disabilities.