How modern couples speak

[shakahislop]

I Was assuming it came from the rigidly policed communications of the modern office

definitely an influence. therapy as well obviously in the US and the associated spiraling out of therapy-speak, half-understood therapy concepts becoming part of the mundane speech register. technologies of communication that people are finding useful and repurposing

 

[sus]

In general I think there is something interesting about the third-person perspective taking

And potential its relationship to the therapeutic use of dissociatives

But also the therapeutic viewing of the self from outside, as a system of triggers and reactions, which the observing self cannot control, can only observe

"When you say this, it sets off my fear of abandonment, which makes me lash out at you. How can we break this pattern?"

 

[shakahislop]

the other thing that's feeding through now is that half of people have been to university. loads of them have as ash sarkar would say been trained in using language. attention to language. a belief in description

 

[sus]

look at that adam Curtis show, it's hilarious how inarticulate people used to be

Which?

 

[shakahislop]

and self-management. self-control. these are the spirit of the age no. the demise of the nutter. standardisation - the grid

 

[version]

Which?

 

[luka]

look at that adam Curtis show, it's hilarious how inarticulate people used to be

On camera they were shy but i think people were better spoken

 

[sufi]

On camera they were shy but i think people were better spoken

but noone knew how to explain themselves, or had a voice for the public, unlike now,
mass media has turned us inside out

 

[luka]

Sus, shaka do you talk to ladies like this?

 

[version]

definitely an influence. therapy as well obviously in the US and the associated spiraling out of therapy-speak, half-understood therapy concepts becoming part of the mundane speech register. technologies of communication that people are finding useful and repurposing

The same thing's happened with "theory".

 

[yyaldrin]

another thing that seems to have been normalised in relationships is to be reachable and online 24 hours a day. don't leave a message on "read" and always reply within a few minutes.

 

[mixed_biscuits]

There are lots of Guardian articles and stuff like that about women hating having to be the breadwinner and make all the decisions.

Twice the workforce for the same salary; the capitalists tricked the women into this.

 

[luka]

THey could be drinking gin in the aftrrnoon, taking qualudes, masturbating with a hoover. Suckers.

 

[mixed_biscuits]

Women have been fooled into becoming a whore in the boardroom and a bore in the bedroom.

 

[mixed_biscuits]

I think words are an illegitimate tool to gauge relationships; you should be able to do so through intuition, telepathy, and chemical signalling. And if you can't, you're with the wrong person.

 

[sus]

Sus, shaka do you talk to ladies like this?

I only have one lady, and we speak our own private language, so no.

 

[sus]

We fall onto the mattress all, "We made it" "Barely" "What a day what a life" "Imagine another" "Believe it or not..." and "Hello darkness my old friend."

 

[sus]

We wake up like, "Tiptide's awful peppy today." "Lookin for a scoop" and then one of us hums the William Tell theme

 

[sus]

We give each other prompts, topics to talk about later, so if we're texting one of us will say "Prompt: Marina" and so that I can remind her at dinner to tell me all about her crazy coworker

 

[sus]

We say "I am not worried at all darling" and "Hm that does remind me of someone who could it be" and "Heads cocked in broad daylight at this thing"