Safe for properly responding to this - A lot of what you're saying makes at least some kind of sense to me, although as regards your point about competing for attention in social spaces, an obvious point would be that there are lots of other loud social situations where dance music is played other than pubs/bars, and some of them would be orientated around things other than booze.
I dunno though, don't take this as a personal dig but would you consider this alcohol-frequency kind of music to be inherently 'lesser', or at least see the booze orientation as automatically a point against it? I say this because the dismissive attitude of 'oh, that stuff's all just booze music' (which I hear from other people apart from you) reminds a lot of the way people would right off ardcore and ravey type stuff as 'just noise for people on pills', 'e-monster fodder' and so forth. Now you might say that ecstacy is a more interesting drug culturally than alcohol, has more progressive potential,, and I would be inclined to agree if you did, but still.. I drink, and you drink (right?), so are we really in a position to dismiss the whole culture associated with that as something horribly alien?
That kind of critique can also be a way of avoiding engaging with you the music properly I think, of almost deliberately not wanting to see what you can get out of it on your own terms. And you might miss out this way. For instance, Swears hardly comes across as some lairy, laddish beer-monster, but he clearly gets quite a lot out of this cluster of artists (I still find 'blog house' to silly to use as a name), so there must be something more to their sound/appeal.
FWIW, I do share your propensity to find mid-range electronic sounds annoying, but I think for slightly different reasons. For me, focus on the mid-range alone tends to produce a curiously 'flat', levelled-out kind of sonic experience, esp when combined with stomping mid-tempo beats. Also it's a comparative thing, I just find bass/sub and very high treble more exciting.