It's homophobic to reject sexual objectification now? I guess large swaths of feminism are homophobic too?
People can be gay in what ever ways they want. I'm not interested in gay behavior, I'm interested in feminine behavior. To claim that gay men always act feminine automatically, just because they're gay, that is essentialism. Sometimes gay men act phallic because everyone acts phallic sometimes. The question was, when do gay men act anti-phallic? I'm only interested in non-phallic behavior. It doesn't matter what your identity is.
But selling a cock ring, that's real feminine culture huh? Literally giving people a commodity that sexualizes them, that ties monetary value to their sexuality, this is your idea of progressive gender politics.