Zhao, the problem with that way of thinking is that you'd have to be 100% psychologically healthy (both parties) for this to be even close to feasible without intensive couples therapy (and even then, the chances are slim).
I'm a fatally flawed human being. I have watched too many people I love die before they hit 30 to not love someone just because Bob Newhart would say it's unhealthy. I really just don't have time for that way of thinking.
Being a human is basically learning to live with your own particular dysfunctions, and as any psychologist will explain, we all have em.
do you think its possible to ever overcome our problems and issues, if only a tiny little bit at a time? do you think there are such things as forgiveness and recovery?
forgiving is not forgetting just to be clear.