Middle age matesmanship and the pit

[line b]

Ive moved into a buddies place because hes just gotten out of a multi year relationship and he has the tendency to be a little erratic. Ill be here as a calming presence and watchful eye

Laying here on the couch now I cant help but think of my friends across seas and the crises of adulthood.

Its the holiday season and dads recently divorced college buddy will be spending christmas with us.

 

[line b]

Im not sure what this thread is supposed to be but whatever is happening with me now certainly feels different than crises from ages prior and I think that could be unpacked

 

[line b]

What is the adult male friendship? What is the adult male crisis?

 

[luka]

arent you about 22? is that middle aged now?

 

[luka]

adult male friendship is about the coincidence of vices and a pact to indulge in those vices together while pretending it is fun.

 

[line b]

Im not 22 no but Im also not middle age.I feel as if the expereince Im having is middle aged though

 

[luka]

the only way you can make the male friendship model remotely wholesome is by making something together such as a 28 track album

 

[luka]

eg

EXTRACTOR FAN MEETS HECTOR THE VECTOR

Woops aka Extractor Fan and Poland's own Hector the Vector have been working together on a 28 track album of emotionally charged electronica meets austere and rigourously intellectual euro art music. they will be sharing snippets and sneak previews here, plus stories, videos and photographs...

www.dissensus.com

 

[line b]

I was in a band with this person before weve already done that

 

[luka]

you wont be a calming presence youll just get sucked into the chaos. and this is exactly what you want and why you moved in

 

[luka]

once your friends have children this effect is magnified. then each meeting really is a straight line sprint to comatose.

 

[luka]

you will see them once or twice a year and they will be on a mission of obliteration in the shortest possible time.

 

[line b]

you wont be a calming presence youll just get sucked into the chaos. and this is exactly what you want and why you moved in

This is not true Id much ratherbe with my lovely wife and 5 rats

 

[line b]

Very honorable thing Im doing

 

[luka]

I loved this. Even with my "normal" mates people I've known for years, who aren't into anything consciously weird, like wot I am, it can be so entertaining when everyone's in the same place. So many big personalities. Doesn't happen much these days so it can lead to "the gang's back together for one last job" feel, sometimes to the detriment of the night. I remember being in the Prince Edward in Stratford and everyone just fucking screaming. at each other, and being really conscious we were the loudest group in the pub by several orders of magnitude. Making people around us uncomfortable. Then one of my mates punched another one in the face. The recipient of the smack (M) had been laying into the other one, saying how obvious it was he wanted to fuck his (M's) wife. Which was funny 'cos it was true. But the truth is hard to bear after 7 Stellas or whatever it was so ... Fun times.

I like these nights 'cos I can surrender completely to being full on geezer which I don't do much anymore. All the sexism and banter comes charging out of the cellar. Sensible me is discarded. I probably laugh more on these nights than I do the rest of the month.

 

[luka]

fucking hell not only does he listen to 'gypsy jazz' he keep pet rats

 

[line b]

Theyre the perfect apartment pets

 

[line b]

Its like having a bunch of tiny cats around except theyre more loving and produce less shit

 

[luka]

im about to have my annual christmas meeting with a particular group of friends and aparently two of them have been whinging behind my back oh he drinks too quickly it always ends up messy bleat bleat bleat

 

[luka]

Luke there are 2 rules that the 3 of us agreed on.

1. We all eat a decent meal together.

2. Your not allowed to buy people whiskys unless they agree to it first.