You can't find a single instance of me denying that "phallic" means self-interested.(I was told upthread by you that "phallic" does not just mean self-interested)
Anyway, about the allegation that I use the no true scotsman fallacy: I have been clear about what phallic and non-phallic mean. Phallic means egoistic, non-phallic means altruistic. I have never wavered on this point from the literal beginning of this thread. If you can't see why it's phallic to brag about how much money men give you for how sexy you are, that's on you.