vimothy
yurp
Damn!
kids these days
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Damn!
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nomadologist
Guest
Done.
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nomadologist
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Mr. Tea, you are on ignore. Every once in a while I hit the button that says "view post" if I think there may be some merit in something you wrote. Which is not often. You're sort of on "time out"--it's like getting a spanking, but without the violence.
if I ignored my kids except when I arbitrarily decided there might be some merit in whatever they might have been saying, they would be much more damaged than they would be by any spanking ...
vimothy
yurp
Ace -- Have any of you actually ever met a rich baghead with mafia connections? Because I have, etc ...
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nomadologist
Guest
that was not the point. the point was that if you put your kids in "time out" and let them cool down, maybe take away some privileges, they learn a much more realistic model of how the negative consequences of one's actions work in the world
someone finally says what the point was!!! thought I was on ignore mode too 
questions
a) have you tried this yourself?
b) what do you do if the child does not respect the `time out' you impose?
c) what do you do in a situation where time outs are not possible or just massively impractical?
not saying that you are all necessarily wrong but some of you (assuming people getting on hi-horses here don't have kids themselves due to lack of response? dont know about that) seem like paper drivers working from the backseat ...
questions
a) have you tried this yourself?
b) what do you do if the child does not respect the `time out' you impose?
c) what do you do in a situation where time outs are not possible or just massively impractical?
not saying that you are all necessarily wrong but some of you (assuming people getting on hi-horses here don't have kids themselves due to lack of response? dont know about that) seem like paper drivers working from the backseat ...
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nomadologist
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i used to babysit for my lawyer who has SEVEN kids (two of whom were twins around the age of two-three at the time). i did this for a year or so when i was a teen, and I easily controlled them and kept them happy and safe with time outs only.
so boohoo about having one or two kids who has a fit. you're supposed to ignore them, otherwise you validate them and the child emotionally manipulates YOU.
so boohoo about having one or two kids who has a fit. you're supposed to ignore them, otherwise you validate them and the child emotionally manipulates YOU.
Mr. Tea
Let's Talk About Ceps
Haha, I'm imagining you treating your hapless six-year-old the way Jeremy Clarkson treats someone who's just buzzed in and interrupted him with a really stupid answer.
yes OK. it is different to babysit someone else's kids and to have your own; in the one case you are working with structure someone else has imposed and in the other you have to start the training from zero.
but yes, you're right in this sense: spanking etc are not essential in childrearing, just convenient, and IMO despite it all not permanently damaging.
boohoo ...
but yes, you're right in this sense: spanking etc are not essential in childrearing, just convenient, and IMO despite it all not permanently damaging.
boohoo ...
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nomadologist
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was that so hard?
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nomadologist
Guest
hehe.
Mr. Tea
Let's Talk About Ceps
Hahaha! Shit, I hadn't noticed that at all. Confusing my Jeremies in the worst possible way there.
Perhaps they should have Clarkson present a special one-off game of Uni Challenge. All the questions would be about cars or why global warming is good for us and whenever someone gets one wrong he'd go off with his "That's about as wrong as ...[insert sub-Blackadder ridiculously-overwrought-simile]" schtick.
swears
preppy-kei
That's basically how I was brought up, lol.