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Last night @line b was practically salivating at the prospect of a long suffering friend also getting a divorce. He's like Ahab, full of fury and taking the crew down with him.

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dilbert1

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Maybe you can get something out of me sharing my experience @kid charlemagne or maybe I’m just gushing to the boys

I don’t really go on dates or see girls very often since being like 25 (31 now). Before I met the rich ex I had about a 3+ year streak of zero activity of the sort. She’s one of the only people I’ve ever had a strictly sexual extended relationship with outside of ‘being together’, but that’s only cos we broke up after trying that for a year. I’ve never asked anyone on a date, or made an advance toward anyone who I wasn’t totally certain they were into me.

That said, I finally went on a couple dates with the girl I mentioned on this thread a few pages ago. Really my first time ever meeting a stranger like that for a date. It went great. Now, am I attracted to her physically? Without a doubt. But the thing is, she’s just such a cool person. Even though its very early on, its clear we have a good deal of compatibility personality wise, shared sense of humor, interests, sensibilities. She’s both independent and open in such a beautiful way. We’ve just blabbered and joked nonstop, learning about each other and being in this really excited mode together.

I did kiss her on the train last night for a bit which was awesome, but it was right before I had to get off on my stop, more than anything I did it to exhibit my physical desire toward her and see it reciprocated, just to sort of check it off. Because ultimately I just want to keep hanging out with her and relating and growing closer, its not my goal right now to get physical or sleep with her. If things go well for a long enough time that will happen, and if they don’t it won’t. It feels so potentially special, and I admire her so much, that I have no intention of doing anything that might be rushed or premature. I was getting so much out of making her laugh in the cafe last night, time flies when we’re together and I can tell she’s into me more or less, we just haven’t gotten into stuff about what we’re “looking for,” which is good because its again still so early and feels more like a let’s see where this goes but I have a good feeling about this kind of situation. The only expectations I’m setting for myself in continuing to hang out is to give her both the space and attention to earn her trust and cultivate a real friendship. Only then could I truly feel comfortable being super affectionate toward her. Its also to guard myself from being hurt or becoming too dependent of course.

Anyways she’s awesome. I’ve been through my fair share of seeing girls I wasn’t feeling so aligned with, who maybe clearly wanted to fuck but it didn’t go much deeper, unreciprocated feelings, etc. That doesn’t mean I’m looking for my wife by any means, or that casual sex is inherently bad or something I’d turn down. But I know enough to know that if it doesn’t feel like how this feels right now with this girl I can’t really be bothered.

Countdown to this all crashing and burning and me taking kid’s place as the most female-tortured on the board lol
 

kid charlemagne

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theres a big thing here also that has really been fucking with me regarding any future contact with her..... @sus will surely understand my pain here but i once brought her one of my copies of Blood on the Tracks to listen to at her place because she also has a player, and i never did take it back in the subsequent visits i made to her place....... she is still in possession of one my copies of the sacred album..... this is a serious pain inside of me right now, and a large part of why its hard to immediately get over her..... i of course already miss so much of the good things with her but with how angry and depressed i have been today and yesterday, it stings me to know that album is still in her possession because she does not fucking deserve it
 

william_kent

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theres a big thing here also that has really been fucking with me regarding any future contact with her..... @sus will surely understand my pain here but i once brought her one of my copies of Blood on the Tracks to listen to at her place because she also has a player, and i never did take it back in the subsequent visits i made to her place....... she is still in possession of one my copies of the sacred album..... this is a serious pain inside of me right now, and a large part of why its hard to immediately get over her..... i of course already miss so much of the good things with her but with how angry and depressed i have been today and yesterday, it stings me to know that album is still in her possession because she does not fucking deserve it

but she doesn't know where you live?
 

kid charlemagne

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Nononono. Respectfully disagree. The most important thing for YOU right now is to take back power. You have to be the one to turn her down if she approaches you in the future. Don't ignore her—tell her the truth that you're not interested any more and sever the connection. The long-term impact on your self-respect and sense of empowerment is more important than having one more messy hookup and another plunge on the rollercoaster. If you want a messy hookup find a rando on Tinder, you don't need this bad juju in your life. @line b back me up on this
Nah he loves it the highs and the lows, always guessing. It sounds brilliant no wonder he's hooked. Keep playing the game kid. Everything else will seem boring in comparison. Maybe write some poems about the way you feel and post them here
both parties here make good points, i know sus is coming from a place of complete earnestness while luka is mostly joking, but he's right, ive got 8 pages of highs and lows that are the highest of highs and lowest of lows with women, i know i am young, but what im going thru right now does make me think the next girl will be boring. it is brilliant at times yes. she is still readily the one of the first ones to view my instagram stories... i will posting one subtly directed at her tomorrow, IS THAT FUCKING PLAYING THE GAME ENOUGH FOR YOU LUKA!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

but i thought of something that maybe is a meet in the middle with what luka says vs what sus and others say...... i talk to her a lot about bob dylan of course and i talked to her a lot about the upcoming film and my involvement in the film, i mentioneed that we could go see the film together when we came out..... when she broke it off with me she said that "hopefully with a little time and space we can still be in each others lives" most of me thinks thats just her being nice, but there is of course part of me that believes that she is being serious there, so in my response back i mentioned that we could have time away and then maybe go see the movie together when in comes out in a couple weeks, and if thats too short of time away then ok..... this is basically the time frame i am going to work on..... if i do not hear from her between now and the new year when the film will be out, then i will unfollow her on instagram and remove her from my followers.... or maybe i wont and will get ideas from here to keep going....., the instagram stuff is last hook here that i struggle with because i know if i do unfollow and remove her from my followers it will seriously alert her and she will prob never reach out, or maybe she will.... i just dont know what to do on the instagram front because i dont know how to move on if i see her on my app every fucking day but if i remove her then ill never see her....... i am sure she will be one of the first to see my story again when subtly post about her.
 

sus

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Can you block or mute her rather than unfollow her? Borderline girls pay for subscription services to track unfollows
 

kid charlemagne

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Maybe you can get something out of me sharing my experience @kid charlemagne or maybe I’m just gushing to the boys

I don’t really go on dates or see girls very often since being like 25 (31 now). Before I met the rich ex I had about a 3+ year streak of zero activity of the sort. She’s one of the only people I’ve ever had a strictly sexual extended relationship with outside of ‘being together’, but that’s only cos we broke up after trying that for a year. I’ve never asked anyone on a date, or made an advance toward anyone who I wasn’t totally certain they were into me.

That said, I finally went on a couple dates with the girl I mentioned on this thread a few pages ago. Really my first time ever meeting a stranger like that for a date. It went great. Now, am I attracted to her physically? Without a doubt. But the thing is, she’s just such a cool person. Even though its very early on, its clear we have a good deal of compatibility personality wise, shared sense of humor, interests, sensibilities. She’s both independent and open in such a beautiful way. We’ve just blabbered and joked nonstop, learning about each other and being in this really excited mode together.

I did kiss her on the train last night for a bit which was awesome, but it was right before I had to get off on my stop, more than anything I did it to exhibit my physical desire toward her and see it reciprocated, just to sort of check it off. Because ultimately I just want to keep hanging out with her and relating and growing closer, its not my goal right now to get physical or sleep with her. If things go well for a long enough time that will happen, and if they don’t it won’t. It feels so potentially special, and I admire her so much, that I have no intention of doing anything that might be rushed or premature. I was getting so much out of making her laugh in the cafe last night, time flies when we’re together and I can tell she’s into me more or less, we just haven’t gotten into stuff about what we’re “looking for,” which is good because its again still so early and feels more like a let’s see where this goes but I have a good feeling about this kind of situation. The only expectations I’m setting for myself in continuing to hang out is to give her both the space and attention to earn her trust and cultivate a real friendship. Only then could I truly feel comfortable being super affectionate toward her. Its also to guard myself from being hurt or becoming too dependent of course.

Anyways she’s awesome. I’ve been through my fair share of seeing girls I wasn’t feeling so aligned with, who maybe clearly wanted to fuck but it didn’t go much deeper, unreciprocated feelings, etc. That doesn’t mean I’m looking for my wife by any means, or that casual sex is inherently bad or something I’d turn down. But I know enough to know that if it doesn’t feel like how this feels right now with this girl I can’t really be bothered.

Countdown to this all crashing and burning and me taking kid’s place as the most female-tortured on the board lol
my respect for dilbert grows every day..... this is more inspiring to move on from this girl and not listen to luka than anything anyone has said to me regarding this....... just the fact that someone much older than me is having inspired sensual feelings
 

kid charlemagne

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Can you block or mute her rather than unfollow her? Borderline girls pay for subscription services to track unfollows
it wont be very hard to tell for her when i both unfollow her and remove her from my own followers..... i have done this and been in a similar position and after i did that the girl basically immediately texted me
 

yyaldrin

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what is your involvement in the new bob dylan movie kid? is it the one with timothee chamalet?
 
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