Are You Shy?
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He used to comment on The Guardian's site, but I think he may have been banned.
padraig (u.s.)
a monkey that will go ape
yeah I'll talk to anyone anywhere about anything anytime
not that I don't suffer from social anxiety, like every other person to ever live, but it doesn't manifest in shyness
I used to be more the latter, not so much (I think) for an egoistic enjoyment of my own voice as a natural tendency to verbosity
took me a while to recognize that and actively cultivate being an engaged listener, rather than someone who's just waiting for his turn to talk again
also out of a conscious desire not be another white dude forever talking over other people
it's an ongoing process but over the years I think I've made progress toward being more like your friend
which is nice because I too am always legitimately interested in what people have to say, which is often fascinating and/or not what you'd think
one of the things I miss the most during the pandemic is striking up random conversations with strangers or acquaintances
conversely, I'm much worse at the consistency required to maintain longer-term relationships, tho it's also something I've tried to work on
padraig (u.s.)
a monkey that will go ape
I also don't mind not talking to people at shows or parties. used to make me extremely anxious as a teenager. I missed some key years of formative teen socializing, due to being locked up at a (since closed for its abusive practices) therapeutic boarding school. if possible I'd do that classic thing of smoking a cigarette so it looks you're doing something, this being before smartphones.
idk, at a certain point you just stop caring about what other people think
it was connected to mellowing out in a general through - as stupid as this sounds - finding outlets in art and philosophy
nowadays I don't go out much and if I do it's usually either with friends or to see a friend's art (of whatever kind)
but I also enjoy the freedom of being able to go to an event alone
also, since I don't drink I have a nice outlet from parties. once people get onto their 4th beer or so - the point where people start getting buzzed enough to impose difficulty in bridging the conversational sobriety gap - it's my cue to say my round of goodbyes and head out.
idk, at a certain point you just stop caring about what other people think
it was connected to mellowing out in a general through - as stupid as this sounds - finding outlets in art and philosophy
nowadays I don't go out much and if I do it's usually either with friends or to see a friend's art (of whatever kind)
but I also enjoy the freedom of being able to go to an event alone
also, since I don't drink I have a nice outlet from parties. once people get onto their 4th beer or so - the point where people start getting buzzed enough to impose difficulty in bridging the conversational sobriety gap - it's my cue to say my round of goodbyes and head out.
padraig (u.s.)
a monkey that will go ape
only anecdotal, but almost all the bodybuilders, powerlifters, etc I've known have been married or at least partnered
of course, idk if that forum's demographic - or that section of it, anyway - has much to do with actual irl bodybuilders
padraig (u.s.)
a monkey that will go ape
jesus christ
padraig (u.s.)
a monkey that will go ape
basically seems like a more pleb 4chan knockoff
luka
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Tell me more. It's an interesting topic we can all relate to.
Corpsey
bandz ahoy
I've often wondered if I'm an introvert or a shy extrovert. The reason I wonder is because this is what happens at nearly every job I've ever had:
1. I arrive and am quiet as a church mouse, for weeks
2. I begin testing the waters with people, making the odd slightly bizarre or disgusting joke
3. Within a month I am the loudest person on the team and end up getting sacked/let go because I'm distracting other people by talking all the time
Also I usually choose to sit on my own when there's a group of people talking, but if I do sit in that group I will once again become the loudest and most excited person and get sacked/let go accordingly.
1. I arrive and am quiet as a church mouse, for weeks
2. I begin testing the waters with people, making the odd slightly bizarre or disgusting joke
3. Within a month I am the loudest person on the team and end up getting sacked/let go because I'm distracting other people by talking all the time
Also I usually choose to sit on my own when there's a group of people talking, but if I do sit in that group I will once again become the loudest and most excited person and get sacked/let go accordingly.