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@shiels had the most interesting line of inquiry, i.e. the tension of trying to reconcile egalitarianism with the reality of unequal desire. that's an issue that effects everyone with egalitarian beliefs, not just a tiny clique of Brooklyn subcultural elites who aren't even interesting as a case study unless you care about them enough to follow the intimate details of their lives. the issue of not just unequal treatment but unequal desire didn't really exist on "the left" until very recently, certainly not when I was younger - tho you can see the precursors bubbling up in culture if you look back - pickup artists, the incel entering into popular consciousness, alpha/beta discourse, red pilling, fuckbois + softbois, etc. it's good to be aware of tho idk how much you can directly do about it - keep an open mind and try to keep in mind how beauty standards or other relevant power relations influence or intersect with your own desires, but desire itself is like belief - you can't desire something you don't or not desire something you do.
other people here are better placed than me to say for sure but the left's tension over unequal desire vs just unequal treatment seems like a reaction to both external (i.e. yr typical alt-right/MRM/Jordan Peterson narrative about gender roles and "biology" and whatever) and internal (what the stuff in this thread is about) factors, without, yeah, a really clear answer.