I mean, leave my nvld out of it for now, and just talking about my adhd:
Researchers have estimated that, by the age of 10, kids with ADHD receive 20,000 more negative messages and critiques than their peers without ADHD. 20,000 more negative comments. Over the course of 10 years, that’s more than 5 negative comments PER DAY MORE than their peers. And if you think about the fact that ADHD symptoms generally get more noticeable when kids begin school, and shorten that time frame to 5 or 6 years that they’re in school before age 10, we’re talking about at least 9 more negative comments PER DAY. That’s huge! Now, on top of that, thinking about the fact that kids with ADHD have a harder time with emotion regulation, these comments will hit them even harder than their peers.
Besides that, there is also the negative commentary from my nvld and the co-morbidities like anxiety and major depression, but now you also see regular negative commentary about your gender (besides the fact that you can be sure that the elevated gender contains just as many people that have made negative comments about you as people from the scum-of-the-earth gender).