kid charlemagne

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man what a day.... main girl did a trip to sf and i decidedd to do b2b dates with two girls.... first girl i took to the met then central park... she was the one i met at wash sq and gave poem about bob dylan.... we made out then i left to go see this girl in brooklyn who hit me up.... we went to a flea market then kissed on the train.....

idk what is wrong with me... i want this main girl to be my gf but then she goes away for a min and i go kissing other girls..... i felt so bad i dont even want to text these girls back... i cant handle the playboy life
 

kid charlemagne

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i once felt on top of the world..... i now feel just a spindle being spun... so lost... so helpless.... a burden of my own faults.... what happenedd to my smile?

ever since my blunder of asking her to be my gf, ive felt like ive been walking on eggshells in my mind, ive drawn myself into a pit of overthinking and paranoia..... despite this tho, things had gone fairly well when i would see her since my blunder, but every moment away, i was in that paranoid self hating pit.... then today came, we had plans to get lunch and walk around to some stores, within 10 min of meeting her, the topic of jobs came up and she brought up how she could just do seeking arrangements and fuck people for money and get a sugar daddy to buy her a bunch of things so she wouldnt have to work so she can just sit around doing whatever and not have a job..... immediately im speechless and turned off.... how am i supposed to respond to this or react? later at lunch i bring it back up and ask if shes serious about doing something like that, and she said yes as shes tried it once before, and she did mention this to me weeks ago, but i wrote it off as an offhand comment given the way she said it sounded like it was something shed never want to do again...... the rest of the date i was very moody and on edge, staring into spaces, not talking much or being as cheery and giddy as i usually am around her, just staring aimlessly into the void of her eyes as she rambled on about whatever the fuck..... i was so turned off, i was very excited to see her too, i had written down several conversation topics in my phone that i was looking forward to bringing up and discussing, but i so quickly abandoned that.... i also was planning on once again asking if she would want to come up for a day in nyc as my mother wouldd be away and id have the apartment to myself, but what is the point after hearing all taht?

between this seeking arrangements, the 7 year ex thats brought up almost every time we hang out, and just these off putting comments she makes towards me, i am just so baffled and confused.... why must she not take me seriously? why bring these things up to my face? she shows so much affection kindness to me, she is constantly available and willing when i make plans....

if she is not as serious about me why must she be so constantly willing to talk and hang out and sleep with me!

i cannot believe she so off the cuff says these things to my face....

i feel so helpless
 

dilbert1

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My turn guys… A girl, who a friend of mine is coworkers with, who followed my IG upon being recommended by said friend, has finally responded positively and forthrightly to my suggestion that we hang out. I’m not sure what we should do for our first date. As you all know, I am constantly going to the movie theater, and I thought maybe a drink before and after a movie would be a good idea but everyone’s telling me that is not a proper first date. As someone I’ve never met, but who has expressed an indirect fancy for me, what should our first date be? Its not some throwaway attempt, I want this to go well, I’m convinced of our compatibility, albeit speculatively. (She played my favorite obscure French post-punk band on the radio, and a deep cut of theirs at that!)
 

Clinamenic

Binary & Tweed
My turn guys… A girl, who a friend of mine is coworkers with, who followed my IG upon being recommended by said friend, has finally responded positively and forthrightly to my suggestion that we hang out. I’m not sure what we should do for our first date. As you all know, I am constantly going to the movie theater, and I thought maybe a drink before and after a movie would be a good idea but everyone’s telling me that is not a proper first date. As someone I’ve never met, but who has expressed an indirect fancy for me, what should our first date be? It’s not some throwaway attempt, I want this to go well, I’m convinced of our compatibility, albeit speculatively. (She played my favorite obscure French post-punk band on the radio, and a deep cut of theirs at that!)
What film are you thinking of going to?
 

dilbert1

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Never mind I was too drunk last night to even open the message and read it, she suggested we get coffee today. Was also too drunk to close out my tab so I’ll be back at that bar to retrieve my debit card once they finally open. Damn it
 

0bleak

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I've never been on a "date" in my life, sounds terrifying.

It's less terrifying if you aren't the instigator.
No that things can't bad or wrong...
like a grown woman calling their "daddy" to come beat you up because you aren't treating her like a princess like everyone else in the world

or someone commenting on your music selection, or that "music is so important to you that you pulled over to the side of the road to change music" said with a sneer by some greasy-headed bitch that was lucky I even said yes in the first place
 
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