Why is it not gendered? You just asserted that without argument. The rest of what you said is consistent with my argument. The Impersonal aligns with masculinity. Masculine culture loves to promote itself as ideally disinterested.
Because if it is gendered, the political lesbians of the 70s could have somehow opted out of capitalism. Yet they clearly didn't, because the violent class relation still cuts across gender. To see class is to see all class everything.
To say that masculine culture is xyz doesn't equate to the same thing as capital being an impersonal force of violence. Accumulation is not cultural, you are paying too much attention to ideology.
If anything, capital populates the ideas you are talking about precisely because they are ideas and will remain ideas. Just like Che Guevara is an idea, and has little to do with Che the living person.